Archive for December, 2007

Christmas parties have begun

Friday, December 7th, 2007

We went to the members’ holiday party at the Museum of Civilization last Wednesday night. I don’t think we’ve been to it before and given that registration starts at 5:00 and required a great deal of rushing, I think I know why. I used to be more sensible when I was younger.

We ate our supper at the tables for the cafe. I was all puffy with pride at having found same-day produced cheese curd for Ken. I had purchased some lunchmeat, cheese bread and yogurt along with veggies and fruit. We all had lots to eat while a queue formed next to us for the 5:30 start of activities. There was a giant slab cake that Reid rejected and some cookies, of which she chose one. Reid had eyes only for the jewel-red “juice”, even when I pointed out the marshmallows for hot chocloate. She did choose a marshmallow for the side of her plate. Back at our table, Reid ate her marshmallow immediately and asked for another. I offered her the one from my hot chocolate and licked the hot chocolat off when she said she wanted it plain. I love her that much. Ken took Reid back to the drinks station and they came back with a cup of marshmallows. Reid had wanted to fill the cup but Ken had limited her to 3. Did you know that 5 regular marshmallows have only 110 calories? They’re very Weight Watchers friendly but very bad if you’re diabetic.

Reid told us that her favourite colour was now red, just like Daddy’s. She asked me what my favourite colour was and I said that I still liked yellow. Reid gave me a little smile, almost indulgently, and said that she had liked yellow when she was a junior but now that she is a senior, she likes red. Pity that Mama is so unsophisticated.

Santa was working the crowd, shaking hands and passing out candy canes. He was even offering to hold kids on his lap for pictures. Reid was keen to see Santa and liked speaking with him as well. She had no interest in sitting on his lap, though. I think I got a nice picture of Ken and Reid standing with Santa and that’s more than we’ve had so far.

After we finished our treats, we went into the Children’s Museum/Postal Museum where the activities were happening. The theatre had a sign indicating that a performance would start in only 10 minutes and so we played on the bus a bit before going in. A woman dressed as the Sugar Plum Fairy came onto the stage and invited the kids to sit close to her on the floor. I told Ken that maybe the performance would absolve me of mommy guilt over not arranging to take Reid to the Nutcracker. When the Sugar Plum Fairy opened her book and began reading the story of the Nutcracker, 3 lines at a time in French and then again in English, I started to worry. She was doing her best to involve the children, having them stand straight as the tin soliders, climb into the boxes and that sort of thing. If the reading had been in a single language, we might have stayed but since it wasn’t, I asked Reid if she wanted to leave and she nodded vigorously. As we left, a clear, little boy voice said, “This isn’t a performance. It is a story!” Ken and I agreed whole-heartedly.

We went next to the Canadian Postal Museum, which is also part of the Museum of Civilization, to write a letter to Santa that would be joined to all of the others to make the longest ever letter to Santa. I made sure that the return addresses would be hidden and we began the letter. Mostly, I wrote the letter. Reid doesn’t watch tv with commercials and had little idea what to request when I asked what she would like. She said she wanted a mailbox, since that is what Ken was helping her make while I wrote the letter. Reid agreed when I suggested that she would like some Clifford the Big Red Dog books and I got a distracted nod when I suggested that a toy or puzzle would be nice, too. By the time I was done the letter, Ken had assembled the mailbox and commented that Christmas had come early this year.

On our way to make a tall soldier’s hat – like a Nutcracker might wear – Reid stopped to play in the Egyptian pyramid and Ken tried to fit in it, too. I hadn’t realized how low the ceiling it but then Ken is a foot taller than me. Reid played in a desert-dweller’s tent and was joined by a very expressive elf. Reid ignored the elf for a bit and when she tried to play actively with Reid, Reid came hurrying toward me.

We made Reid’s hat with pieces of foam and those brass fasteners that held together paper files in offices long ago. Reid was happy to push the brass fasteners through the foam but wasn’t so keen to put them where I pointed. The hat is awfully cute but the fasteners aren’t evenly spaced. Take it up with Reid.

We met up with Ken near the boutique, which had a sale for members that he’d managed to resist, and then headed home. As we drove, Reid was talking about seeing Santa and then said, “Santa didn’t give me a present,” in a slightly confused tone. I reminded her that Santa had given her a candy cane. Reid nodded and agreed that he’d given her a little present. I reassured her that Santa would be bringing her a bigger present on Christmas morning. The thought made Reid smile, even though she hadn’t been able to think of anything she wanted other than that mailbox Ken had already given to her. The magic of a visit from Santa alone was enough for her.

Playing dentist with Daddy – Wordless Wednesday

Wednesday, December 5th, 2007

img_3625-1.JPG

Check out the Wordless Wednesday HQ
View More Wordless Wednesday Participants or look at my previous Wordless Wednesday entries

Ho, ho, holiday travel

Tuesday, December 4th, 2007

We had the car packed and were leaving our driveway only 2 minutes later than Ken had planned on Friday. I was seriously considered writing about this accomplishment and letting everyone know that at least part of our trip had gone as it should because I was afraid the rest of the drive would be challenging. I wasn’t jinxing us, just reflecting on the usual course of events. It took us twice the normal time to get to the 401, with Ken driving in near white-out conditions at 20-30 kilometres an hour. Poor Reid said at one point she needed to pee but there was no safe place to pull over. Soon she was saying, “Mama, I’m peeing,” and looking at me like I should be able to help her. Safety over sanitation, that’s my motto. I reassured her that it wasn’t her fault and we’d get her into dry clothes as soon as we could. In the time before we finally got to an off ramp and gas station, Reid reported a few times, in surprise and maybe discomfort, “Mama, I peed.” I can remember the last time Reid peed in her pants and she probably can’t either.

Reid watched a Diego Saves Christmas and then part of a Toopy and Binoo Big Parade on dvd, I listened to Scorpion’s Gate (a book) on my iPod and Ken continued his white-knuckled driving until I realized it was 8:30 and time for Reid to be asleep. She protested a bit but not much. Maybe she knew she’d snuck one by us staying up so late. Reid and I did our best to cuddle to sleep, given that we sit on opposite sides of the backseat and she is in a car seat. My back was happy to discover that Reid went to sleep quickly and I did, too. If you’re feeling sorry for Ken, and you should given the driving conditions over the first 3.5 hours of the trip, I want to state publicly that he didn’t want the distraction of me talking to him and he supported my use of the iPod. I would never have listened to it otherwise.

Reid and I slept through snow to Kingston and then strong winds to Wheatley. In fact, Reid slept through a stop at a gas station, though I woke for it. To be precise, I woke up just in time to say, “We’re in Kent County now; we just have to get to the other side.,” as Lila used to say whenever I went somewhere with Janet when we were kids. (It used to drive us crazy, if you’re wondering.) Reid’s eyes popped open as we turned into Grandma Joyce’s subdivision. Reid looked around, announced we were nearly to Grandma’s and said, “I’m not tired anymore.” That made one person in the car who wasn’t tired ;+) I had trouble with the code to the garage door and so tried ringing the doorbell and then pounding on the door, all to no avail. I went to Aunt Karin’s and knocked on the window until Uncle Dave woke up. He was very coherent for a guy who’d been dead asleep but they didn’t have a key. Uncle Dave did share the secret of the garage door code and promised to come over if it didn’t work when I told him we were coming back to sleep on his couches if we couldn’t get in.

The code plus the trick worked and we got into the house about 2:45 am. By the time Reid and I had used the bathroom and climbed into bed it was pretty much 3:00. Contrary to Reid’s declaration of wakefulness, she was back asleep within minutes of getting into bed (thank goodness!) and slept until 7:30.

Not so long ago, a girl was born

Tuesday, December 4th, 2007

It’s Chantelle’s birthday today and I wanted to take a few minutes to tell some stories about her. She had said that Reid would be the best birthday present. When I suggested that I’d skip this email she told me that she was looking forward to it. No pressure, eh ;+)

When we were kids, Grandma Joyce used to tell us that she hoped that each of us got a child that was just like us. Chantelle was Pam’s mini-me. I, of course, wasn’t born when Pam was young but Grandma Joyce said that Pam had a whiny voice, regardless of what words she was saying. Chantelle had that, too, for awhile. She had her sparkly, happy eyes and a whine that made you want to stab your own eyes. (Sorry, Chantelle, but it’s true.) We spent lots of time talking about Happy Face Hannah and Sad Face Sue. They don’t make sense in retrospect, since Chantelle’s voice and not her face was the problem. When we drew her attention to her tone, Chantelle could use a happier one. It’s hard to believe now, since Chantelle seems to always be smiling and talks in a very pleasant voice but back in the day, it was a different story.

When I think of how Grandma Joyce’s wish of a mini-me for each of us and how I see that it has come to pass for each of the others, I wonder what aspects of Reid are like my childhood self. In those moments when she is driving me crazy, especially, I wonder if it is my payback, compliments of Grandma Joyce. It’s a lot like that Chinese curse/blessing: May you live in interesting times. It cuts both ways.

As a grown woman, Chantelle has impressed me by her industriousness. I know first hand how easy it is to get comfortable in your job and let schooling slide. The courses that Chantelle has taken have taken her away from deserved rest but she perseveres. And really, doesn’t every family need someone who is a trained aesthetician? ;+)

Happy birthday, Chantelle.

Why Reid needs to grow just a bit taller

Monday, December 3rd, 2007

As we were getting ready to leave Melissa’s on Thursday, or at least when I was telling Reid it was time to leave Melissa’s on Thursday, I told Reid that she needed to give everyone super-good goodbye hugs and kisses because we wouldn’t be seeing them for 10 days. Reid started giving each of the kids and Melissa and Peter without any prompting a few months ago. Sarah, Melissa and Peter accept them with enthusiasm. I suspect Stephen likes them but can’t let on because he is a very nearly 10 year old boy.

Ben is certainly the least enthusiastic recipient of Reid’s affection. He stoically accepts the hug but avoids the kiss. Last week, Sarah was trying to hold Ben down while Reid tried to kiss him. When I noticed what was happening I made them let him go and explained that people get to decide for themselves what happens to their bodies. This week, Reid was stretching herself as tall as she could, all of the way up on her tiptoes and could only reach the underside of Ben’s chin. She reached up and tried to pull his head down but wasn’t tall enough for that either. Poor kid, she needs to grow just a bit taller. I told Reid she needed to ask Ben if he wanted a kiss and when she did, he said “no”. The answer seemed acceptable to Reid as she gave him a squeeze and went in search of Stephen.

Reid’s stage debut

Sunday, December 2nd, 2007

Okay, so it wasn’t a stage but Reid did have her first performance on Tuesday night at gymnastics. I’m not sure if the teacher had told them there would be anything special happening at class but Ken and I didn’t say anything for fear of instilling performance anxiety until we were on our way into the gym. The kids in Reid’s class don’t have the skills or memories to carry out any complicated routine but they have cuteness and energy in spades that more than compensates.

Reid and her classmates did a floor routine that was barely controlled chaos but I was so proud of her. She followed along (more or less ;+) and her little body is so strong and she is increasingly coordinated. They shook there sillies out and jumped and spun and did a few other manoeuvres that she has been practicing since we first started in July.

In the next section of the program, Reid walked carefully across the first balance beam, did her stork stand and remembered to do her motorcycle stance when she dismounted. Things started to unravel at that point because the teacher was far ahead. Reid and her buddies, the ones not being led by the teacher, started to wander and “fall” off of the balance beams. Finally the teacher noticed that 3 of the 4 kids were nowhere near where they needed to be and got them over to hang from the rings and then from the bar while doing a straddle. They crawled through a tunnel and slid down a slide as well but I’ve seen those things at home ;+)

I don’t think that I would use the word “controlled” in describing the chaotic atmosphere that prevailed during the trampoline performance. The teacher is a nice young woman but has yet to learn much in terms of class management. She focuses too closely on the child nearest to her and the others slide out of order. Still, it was clear that Reid has mastered new skills since her first gymnastics class in July. She can jump with both feet at the same time, can stay in place while jumping or move forward according to her desire. On one of the trampolines, Reid did a sit-jump or at least she jumped, sat and climbed up and repeated the process. This is one of Reid’s favourite moves. I like to watch anytime that she tries to do a jumping jack or variant thereof and she did one on the trampoline as well.

The kids did a series of movements on the floor – handstands, hanging from a pole, climbing to a platform and jumping, doing a star hold from the ladder, mounting and dismounting a little rise, swinging from a rope and a somersault down a wedge-mat. Reid tends to get her hands too far from the wall and her handstands look a lot like extreme pushups. Her upper body strength is certainly impressive. As recently as September, Reid wanted someone to hold her hand when she jumped from the  platform but on Tuesday she jumped confidently and landed and then moved into a motorcycle stance. At some point, she’ll land *in* the motorcycle stance but that’ll come in time. Reid loves to do somersaults and the wedge mat accelerates her tumbling. There was also some sort of thing they were supposed to do with a little hoop. I’m not sure if they were supposed the put the hoop over themselves or rock back and forth while holding it. Maybe I’ll figure it out next session.

They finished with another floor routine that included twisting (read: wiggling) and attempts at jumping jacks and other movements that might have been mistaken for flailing if you couldn’t see the concentration on the kids’ faces.

I was impressed that Reid didn’t wave and call to us at us or come to see us in the middle of the performance. She mostly followed the teacher’s instructions, when she could hear them, and showed that she’d mastered new skills.

Dressing as a princess

Sunday, December 2nd, 2007

The other day Reid came across her Disney princess ‘high heeled” shoes when we were in the basement and went upstairs to find the other parts of the costume. When I told her she needed to come back downstairs, Reid said, “I can’t. I need my  Atira.” It’s true that she hasn’t seen Cousin Atira in a long time but Christmas is coming soon. The tiara was found and Princess Reid was beautiful in that regal way of happy 3 year old girls.

Everyone has chores

Saturday, December 1st, 2007

Reid has been interested lately in where things come from, who made them and who bought them. After a series of questions about who bought her sled, snow shovel and snowsuit to which the answer was always “Mama,” I decided that I should point out to Reid that Ken does many things to contribute to our family’s well-being. I said, “Mama does the shopping but Daddy washes our clothes for us.” Reid nodded and said, “And I do the cleaning.” Umm, no! Ken is the primary cleaner in our family, too. I resisted the urge to say, “I don’t think so, Vern” because that would have showed my age and settled on, “And you help with the cleaning.” Reid does help with the cleaning, as much as most 3 year olds do, I think.

In the same vein, we have also talked about from where clothes or things come.  The first thing to determine is whether an item was made in a factory or by someone Reid knows firsthand. For the most part, the non-factory products come from the farmers at the market – no, not from *our* farm (the Canada Agricultural Museum) – and Grandma Joyce. Reid always hopes that I will know about the factory workers and what motivates them in their job to answer her “why?” I really don’t know the answer. Reid understands that Grandma Joyce sews for her because she loves her. She still asks sometimes, though, just to hear me say it. For things that have come from a factory, we continue to establish that I do most of the shopping.

On Saturday afternoon, Reid again asked her snowsuit and I said I bought it, just like I buy most of her things. Reid said, “Aunt Jane bought my hat,” and checked her feet before continuing, “and my socks.”. It’s true. Aunt Jane does buy Reid stuff, especially cool socks with patterns. Boring old Mama-bought socks come from Old Navy in large quantities of blue or white with anti-slip writing on the bottom. Thank goodness for honourary aunts. Reid’s true and dramatic sense of sock style would otherwise be crushed.