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Fall Fair at Upper Canada Village

Tuesday, September 25th, 2007

It’s fall fair time in our part of Ontario and Upper Canada Village is now exception. Reid and I headed there on September 16th, after a leisurely breakfast at home and a snuggle with Daddy (her, not me, more’s the pity). After we resolved the small keys in car issue, we joined the rather large queue at admissions and went in.

The village had more people in attendance than I remember from others visits. I wonder if it’s that the fall fair is so much more interesting or that there are fewer diversions mid-September than when we visited earlier in the summer. There wasn’t a bottleneck anywhere to interfere with our visit, though. I’m glad when museums get lots of visitors since it would seem they’d be harder to close.

We went first to the fair grounds and started with some apple cider, bread and cheese. Oh, and I bought us some fudge but Reid got distracted by the animals and I ate her piece. All of the refreshment were 25 cents a serving. There were extra horses, sheep and ducks on site for the fair or at least there were animals we’d never seen before. There was also a pair of geese in a crate. A woman was telling her child about the “ducks” and I had to check the label to be sure that they were actually geese. As Reid peered into the crate, she asked if they were ducks. I was so hoping that the other mother wouldn’t be listening as I corrected Reid. She was, of course, and so I explained that I had had to read the card to be certain.

We had our lunch at Willard’s Hotel – a huge! sausage (according to Reid) and fried potatoes – and while there I discovered that my season pass not only gets me in for free – after the 2 visit equivalent cost of the membership – and offers a 30% discount on other admissions I purchase but also a 10% discount at Willard’s Hotel. Yes, the place we’ve eaten at on each of our 6 visits would have given me a discount if only I’d shown my card. The fellow who was explaining this to other diners also mentioned a discount at Fort Henry in Kingston. I must read the card to see what else I’ve been missing.

After lunch, I tried without success to convince Reid to have a nap. She top half was willing to assume a napping position but her legs and voice were too busy to be still. After 15 minutes without seeing a slow blink, let alone closed eyes, I gave up and we went back to that swing we discovered on our last visit. After a bit, we returned to the fair grounds to see a bit of the horse competition and then we went to join in the children’s games and races. Reid leant her strong muscles to one of the tug-of-war teams but it was a lost cause. At first, she seemed a bit perplexed by the whole thing since I hadn’t had time to explain what would be happening.

Next, Reid took part in the sack race. The bag came to her underarms but she wasn’t worried by that. Her eyes sparkled from the moment she was handed the flour sack until she jumped across the finish line. Reid and another little girl were soon left behind as the big kids hopped away. Each little girl fell at least twice but the costumed interpreters stood them back up and the girls hopped on. It was a long course for such short legs but Reid finished to great cheers. It’s too bad that the other mama “rescued” her daughter. Reid was proud of herself for finishing – as well she should have been. Both activities netted Reid a candy stick and so she was particularly happy and I had to be equally vigilant to keep her from opening and eating all of them.

Reid wasn’t willing to pair with a stranger for the 3-legged race but we did watch. The fastest pair was maybe 3 or 4 years old. They’d been giving a slight headstart but I’m not sure they needed it. I wonder if the shortness of their legs was the advantage or that they’re used to being dragged around by their parents. We also watched the wheel barrow races. Reid wasn’t interested in participating and since this seemed the activity most likely to cause an injury, I didn’t press the issue. She has asked us to walk her like a wheel barrow since then. Maybe she’ll want to be in the race next year. I told Melissa that if she can’t go next year that I may borrow one of her kids for the day. The final activity for the children was a ring toss. The post that the kids were aiming for was taller than Reid. She still managed to hit the post with a couple of her rings and that was worth a smile.

After watching a bit more of the medicine salesman/magician’s show, we went looking for the sheep. They’d moved from next to the Tinsmith’s shop – a place that doesn’t interest Reid in the least – to the hill next to the woollen mill. A few of the sheep came up to the fence and we spent quite a while feeding them some of the grass and weeds from our side of the fence. I’m not sure that the grass was greener where we were but the sheep seemed to enjoy being hand fed.

With my keys in hand where they belonged, we went to the parking lot before they locked the gate, not wanting a repeat of our last visit to the village when we were had the near miss. Reid ate most of her hamburger before falling asleep. I’d hope that she would stay that way but no such luck…

If ever you’re planning a trip to Ottawa, consider whether the Upper Canada Fall Fair will be happening round about then. It really is worth the consideration.

Reliving my silliness

Monday, September 17th, 2007

I locked my keys in the car Sunday morning. While we were waiting for the tow truck driver, Reid was full of questions. Unfortunately for me, many of them were focused on out predicament.
Reid: What are we doing?
Mama: Waiting for the tow truck driver to come and open our car.
Reid: Why?
Mama: Because I locked my keys and purse in the car and I can’t pay for us to get into Upper Canada Village.
Reid: Why lock keys in the car?
Mama: Because I’m silly.
Reid: Why?
Mama: Do you want me to read you some stories? (I remembered our little bag of books but not my purse.)

A few minutes later, Reid asked her first question again – the verbal equivalent of “wet hair, lather, rinse, repeat.” The main variance was what I said to distract her. We read stories, collected leaves, ate an apple, threw the core away and admired the flowers in the bed whose wall provided us a seat.

We have many conversations that are repetive like this one but it’s only the ones about about my foolishness that needle. This is the song that never ends and some of our conversations don’t seem to either.

Edited to add:

My sister commented that it’s unfortunate that I can’t attach the keys to my Blackberry with a carabiner since I *never* forget my crackberry. My response:

And also too bad that I didn’t listen to the voice in my head that said I should lock the doors with my key fob instead of the on-door lock. I thought my purse was in the basket of the stroller and didn’t want the hassle of bending over and getting it out. I’m smart enough to think of the right way but too dumb to act on the thought. ;+)

Cottage life, part 2

Wednesday, September 12th, 2007

Reid woke up at ten to six on Sunday morning. Since we were all in the same bedroom, Ken and I woke about then, too. As soon as Reid’s feet hit the kitchen floor, she was talking about going outside. I’d left the windows open until about 4:00 and the overnight temperature of 7 degrees Celsius made the cottage chilly enough that I knew to turn down Reid’s request to eat outside. We used the microfurnace to warm the kitchen and I cooked sausages (Reid’s favourite) and Reid made toaster waffles. I had to explain to Reid how the toaster worked first. She knew where to put the toast but not how to “flush” them. We have a toaster oven. She did a great job with the waffles and had fun, we’ll have to have them more often.

Ken dropped Reid and me off at Upper Canada Village just after 9:00 and went off to watch ships going through the locks. I saw more than enough ships go through the locks when I worked at Fort George and we decided that Reid wouldn’t enjoy the experience yet. We’ll take her to the Rideau Canal locks in Ottawa instead. Reid and I hadn’t been to the village in the morning before; we’ve always left home after lunch so that Reid can nap on the way.

In the morning, the costumed interpreters are busier in the morning or at least busy on different tasks. We saw some walking calves to the apple orchard to let them graze and using the pump to fill buckets for the trough. There were others raking the grass that had been cut the day before and some gathering corn and stalks for the oxen. We also got to see the men in the bakery punching down the bread and putting it in pans. The coals were still in the bread oven and I was able to point them out to Reid.

Over in the cheese factory, the man was stirring the milk as it cooked – it looked like pale orange cottage cheese since they’d already added the dye. Not so appealing, really. He explained about the process and also that the vast majority of cheddar cheese – more than 90% – is made in north eastern North America. He also told us that cottage cheese and cheese curds weren’t widely eaten until after pasteurization became the norm because of the “bad” bacteria that was in the milk. When I asked about aging cheese, he said that mild cheddar is aged from 2 to 6 months, medium from 6 months to 2 years and old for longer than 2 years. He said that in the 1860′s the main rule was not to eat the cheese before 2 months to be sure that the “good” bacteria had had enough time to destroy all of the “bad” bacteria.

We also saw a couple of men setting cauldrons to boil over an outside fire so that they would have lots of boiling water when they slaughtered the pig that afternoon. I didn’t mention the purpose to Reid, though, and while *I* saw the pig being cleaned and cut up later, I didn’t draw Reid’s attention to it. I’m sure she could have handled the sight. The area was clean, the people doing the work were respectful and it seemed sort of clinical. I didn’t think Ken and I were up to all of the questions, though. I don’t know enough about the finer points of running an abattoir or porcine biology.

For the first time ever, Reid and I took a ride on the carry all – a horse-drawn wagon that takes people around the village on a guided tour. Reid had never expressed an interest beyond watching the horses at a distance and there has always been lots of people on it. We were there before the crowds and it seemed like a good idea to propose it. The man driving told us lots about the buildings we drove by and also about the animals and crops – not so much that our brains filled up but enough to make it interesting. There are still buildings that I’ve not been in for 5 years and so it was good to hear what I’m missing.

We went into the print shop and saw a woman making posters for the Fall Fair that will be held on September 15 and 16. One announced the fair and the other warned “Beware of pickpockets”. Apparently some pickpockets followed a fall fair circuit since people carried much more cash when they went to the fair than was ordinarily the case. I don’t think I’ve ever seen this process before. Reid could relate to inking the stamp and had wide eyes as the press was retracted and the paper pulled off.

We stopped by the house where we saw the lady spinning last week and they were dying wool with walnuts. At the end of the process, the walnuts looked like charred black balls and the yarn would be a black-brown. Other than the cauldron over the fire, though, there didn’t seem to be much to see. The extra woman was weaving at a large loom but Reid wasn’t interested in watching her though she did watch the woman at the spinning wheel for a bit.

We noticed two swings in the backyard of the house next to where the wool-dying was happening and so made a point of going there. It amazes me that we’re still discovering things after all of our visits and I wonder what I’d do with a guest who had only a single visit. Reid had lots of fun on the swings – two ropes hanging from a branch with knots at the end and a wooden board between them. The one was too low even for her but the other was just right. I kept reminding her to keep her bum lower than her knees and she kept telling me to push her. It was a perfect activity in a perfect environment. There weren’t other kids waiting for a turn and the sunlight filtered in through the leaves of the apple tree.

We watched horses going in a circle in order to power a saw that was cutting logs. The one horse is grey and a favourite of Reid’s. I thought it was a white horse but the handler said that it had black skin and a white coat and was grey. A white horse has pink skin and a white coat, he said. The other man talked to Reid about the bark that was coming off the log and let her smell and touch the wood shavings that had fallen below the blade. No, not when the saw was working, when the horses were having a break.

We ate lunch at Willard’s Tavern, where we usualy have tea. I checked into the Harvest Barn, which is more cafeteria-like, but the prices were pretty much the same as Willard’s without the ambience or the view. I had a ploughman’s lunch plate and Reid asked for stew. She ate some meat and dipped her bread in the gravy and then spied my boiled egg. Since she asked politely if she could have my “fancy” egg, I happily let her have it. She didn’t like it and had trouble swallowing the bite and so I offered her a bite of just the yolk but that wasn’t right either. Of course, I had to taste it then and discovered that it was a chilled, pickled, hard-boiled egg. Pretty different from the warm, non-pickled ones I give her at home.

After lunch we went over to see a bit of the singer who was at the family activity centre as part of the special event. We were really there for the marionnettes but had some time to kill. Reid listened to one song but didn’t seem interested and I offered to go play outside. She shook her head and cuddled close and I picked her up. Before the next song was over, Reid was asleep.  I carried her to her stroller and she stayed asleep while a nice lady put the back down for me and then when I lay her down. We went to the quiet, shady spot of the path we’d walked down earlier for the first time and I sat on a little bench and wrote about our hot air balloon adventures while Reid slept for 45 minutes. I’m lucky that Reid isn’t ready to give up her nap, since it’s required at daycare. I also enjoy the quiet time (okay the chance to nap).

Ken picked us up at 2:30 and we all went to Prehistoric World. A one-kilometre long path runs winds it’s way through some gardens and a forested area and along the way there are cement dinosaurs of various types. For the first 2/3 of our visit we saw dinosaurs that looked similar to ones we remembered from school but had different names. There were a few sentences describing each dinosaur and so I’ll have to conclude they were properly researched. Still we were glad to see the Brontosaurus, Triceratops and T-Rex. We wondered if there was such a thing as “new dinosaurs” to go along with “new math”. The first dinosaur that really caught Reid’s interest was just being built. The wire frame shape was complete but the cement hadn’t yet been added. Ken dubbed it an “incompletasaurus” and we took a picture of it. He had names for the other dinosaurs, too. My husband has some trouble imagining cement dinosaurs as the real thing and he has a wicked sense of humour. Some of his alternate names were very funny.

We finished up digging in an “archaeological” sand pit. I’d read about it on the Prehistoric World web site and so had brought buckets and shovels. As we dug for dinosaur bones – okay, we were making castles, Reid wasn’t interested in digging for bones – a little boy came over and asked to borrow a shovel. He said please without prompting and we had a spare and I encouraged Reid to say, “yes”. His mom was somewhat horrified. I told her that he’d asked nicely and it was no trouble and then went back to playing. The sand pit was Reid’s favourite part. Without it, I’m not sure that she would have been as positive about the visit. If she was a dinosaur fanatic, like many preschoolers are, she would have enjoyed the range of types of dinosaurs. Parents see cement statues but I think the kids can imagine them alive better.

We had hot dogs and salads (good purchase ;+) and chips for supper on the deck at the cottage. I think the cold of the previous night killed the flies or maybe they were all sick with colds in their little fly houses. Either way it suited me. Reid had a hotdog and bun, until the bun “broke” and was unfit for eating (at least according to Reid). Then she smiled at her dad and convinced him to let her have the left over hamburgers that he’d been planning to eat. Ken is amused that Reid is such a carnivore. To be completely accurate, she loves meat and dairy products, likes most fruit and veggies and could take or leave bread. Oh, and she loves rice and pasta – will eat a plate of spaghetti noodles with nothing but parmesan cheese or a mound of rice.

There was a 3 year old and a little one about 18 months old, both girls, in the next door cottage. There was a little toddler boy a few cottages down. We saw some shy smiles exchanged and the other 3 year old girl said, “hi” but Reid didn’t speak. Reid is a reserved kid. She has some good friends at daycare but she isn’t the sort to run away hand-in-hand with someone she just met at the park. It’s funny. She likes to be in crowds but not necessarily talking to the other people.

We played more of the Winnie the Pooh Goes Together game and went to bed relatively early. Ken sat up in the kitchen reading and since Reid fell asleep so quickly, I even managed to get up for a while. We’d had such a busy day that I stayed up only long enough to have a hot chocolate but it was still an accomplishment for me.

We almost went to the Glengarry Highland Games on Saturday

Wednesday, August 8th, 2007

We almost went to Maxville on Saturday to see the Glengarry Highland Games (warning: noisy link). I’ve been wanting to go for the 12 years we’ve lived in Ottawa. We’ve been out of town on a few occasions and it always seems to be held on the wickedest, hot days of the summer.

We made it into the car and onto the 417 on Saturday before Ken told me that he and I would both have to pay $20 admission (no, I hadn’t checked) and we’d be there only 2 hours before we needed to feed Reid and drive home for her nap. It was already hot and I wasn’t clear how interested Reid would be. Oh, and I’m cheap. Add my less-than-enthusiastic companion into the mix and it didn’t seem like a great idea.

The Canada Agricultural Museum, though, seemed like a good alternative. I told Reid that we weren’t going to see the dancing girls and were going to the Farm instead. Reid had no problems with the change, of course, once she confirmed that we were going to “her farm.”

The fellow who does the wagon rides was putting the harness and gear on Bella when we got to the large animal barn. We watched and discussed the process. We next saw Goody, the bull, standing in his stall and he scratched his back on a new brush. There was a sign that said that Goody had just celebrated his 10th birthday. The brush might have been a present.

In the small animal barn Reid, who gets bolder on each visit, patted several lambs and sheep and even pet the rabbit who doesn’t have the bite-warning sign on her cage. We approached the “piggy bank” – a pig that is supposed to oink when you put money into the slot on it’s back. But it didn’t and hasn’t for a month or so. Ken and I were disappointed and felt cheated. Reid likes handling “monies” in any situation and didn’t mind the silence.

Reid hurried to the end of the barn where the mamas and piglets are kept. Her dedication was rewarded. There was a litter of day-old piglets with their mama. I told Reid that I thought the piglets looked like newborn human babies. “You didn’t look like that, Reid!” reassured the indignant daddy.

On the way to the pasture to see the goats and Eeyore, the donkey, Reid suffered a major league wipe out. I saw the round metal thing sticking out of the ground a nanosecond before Reid tripped over it and went sprawling. I wiped off Reid’s knee and gave her a kiss and she was interested enough in the animals to make only one request for a band aid. She clearly didn’t need one since the blood wasn’t dripping on the ground – ask my mom, that’s the pre-requisite for a band aid or at least it was when *I* was a kid. I think Reid probably could get one for a scrape. Later we noticed quite a scrape on Reid’s arm that would have made me cry but Reid hadn’t noticed it.

Another family called Eeyore over long enough that he eventually came to the fence or maybe it was a coincidence. Either way, we joined them at the fence and pet the cute little donkey. His coat was much smoother than I’d expected. Reid had a look of delight on her face as she patted him. I thought, “Check. One more animal fear dealt with.” Reid loves to see animals and is working her way up to touching increasingly large ones. Maybe by Thanksgiving she’ll be ready for the horses. Of course, dogs of any size are still great stress-inducers for Reid.

We went to the dairy barn, of course, and we provided the name for each and every cow that stays there. Some names warrant discussion, especially when they share a name with someone we know, otherwise it’s a cataloguing exercise that Reid enjoys. Many of the cows were licking each other. I haven’t noticed that before. I guess you might develop a fondness for the your neighbour after a while.

Reid and I went to see a presentation in the demonstration kitchen while Ken took the time to read the labels in the tractor exhibit. We learned how to make granola bars with sunflower seeds, sunflower seed butter and soy nuts (among other things) AND we got to taste an earlier batch. Ken got no sample at all. I think it’s a recipe worth making at home, though, and so he might get to try them yet.

I’d packed lunch since we’d planned to go so far and Reid and I ate our lunches as we drove home. I’m all in love with these Tupperware keepers that I’ve had for quite awhile but haven’t used much. I noticed that they hold two sandwiches perfectly, even better than the sandwich keepers hold one since we are a whole-grain, big-slice bread family. I feel like I’ve got new keepers for free. Small things amuse small minds, eh?

In the end, I’m glad we didn’t make it to the Glengarry Highland Games but I’ll put it back on my list for next year. Reid will be 4 by then and naps won’t be as important, especially if we’re weaning her off them in anticipation of her being in school. Not that I want to think of her as old enough for school and especially not that I want her in an afternoon class.

Chicago, day 2

Saturday, July 28th, 2007

Reid hung out with Aunt Karin and Shea while I was at the BlogHer07 conference that brought us to Chicago. Reid decided to stay in the hotel room while Aunt Karin took me to the train. She is totally addicted to Nickelodeon and the Disney channel. Once we left, though, Shea said that Reid started to wail and say she wanted me. Being a quick-thinking fellow, Shea asked if Reid wanted to hold the remote. She said, “yes,” and stopped crying immediately. Good thinking, eh?

The details of what happened during the day are vague to me. Aunt Karin and Shea were pretty tired when we met up about 8:00 and Reid was modifying all nouns with “poopy”. I do know that they went to the Shedd Aquarium. I’d thought Reid would love it since she’d really enjoyed the Birch Aquarium at Scripp’s when we went to San Diego. The admission prices were pretty high, though, and so Aunt Karin insisted that they stay a bit. Shea told me that it wasn’t as bad as he’d expected. I thinking that might be damning with faint praise.

The highlight for Shea seemed to be taking a taxi to get to the aquarium. He’d never ridden in a taxi before. I’m tempted to say, “or at least not that he remembers,” but I bet he is accurate in his comment. The family I come from is one that drives on vacation.  And everywhere else, actually. Have I ever mentioned that my dad built, and my brother still builds, vehicles for Chryslers? Drive domestic and drive a lot is the motto.

The Hollister store was high on Shea’s list of places to go and they went to the Apple store to use a computer to find out the location. I’m wanting to go to the Apple store for its own offerings (oops, I’ve made Ken cringe, I’m sure). I brazenly asked to touch a woman’s iPhone at the conference yesterday and so I won’t need to touch one at the Apple store. They did make it to the Hollister store. Shea got some things there but Reid came away empty handed.

I called to see where they were when my cocktail party ended. They had just left Navy Pier, where I was, and so they waited for me at the trolley stop and I caught the next one. It was 8:00 and neither Aunt Karin nor I had eaten. We found a Starbucks/Bread Company combination restaurant just up the street. We shared a salad and sandwich while Reid literally ran in circles. She sang a bit, counted to 10 several times – getting all the numbers in the right place, and kept up a running commentary while she ran. There were few people in the restaurant but those that were there were smiling and so I didn’t have to be the heavy.

Shea told me that many people had commented on how cute Reid was. She was wearing a dress that she got from Sari, Melissa and Melissa’s men and she was a happy girl. Reid is at her cutest when she is happy. Having a kid with you in a strange city is a great ice-breaker. People talk to you or just smile as you walk by. As long as they don’t touch the kid, it’s all good. Whenever we look like we’re not sure where to go, someone stops to help us. They’re looking out for Reid, I think, since I don’t have people volunteering to help me when I’m alone.

Finally, we got onto the train to go back to the hotel. Reid told me that she was tired. I resisted the urge to say, “That’s why I’ve been telling you to lay down.” And instead I said, “Mama will watch over you.” Reid closed her eyes and cuddled with CareB and was asleep in seconds. She stayed asleep when I put her into the car and then when I took her out and carried her to the room. That’s a tired girl!

Ken’s dadversary

Wednesday, July 25th, 2007

I read in a magazine a while ago that I should celebrate my friends on their momversaries because it is a big deal to become a mother. I’m pretty sure that I tool that to heart and called my niece, Melissa. At the very least, I meant to call her.

This year, though, I want to mark Ken’s dadversary. Maybe I wouldn’t need to do this if I’d written a worthy tribute to him on Father’s Day but instead, I took Reid to the Ontario Science Centre and the Toronto Zoo.

Ken is great dad. His style of interacting with Reid is very different from mine but we share most of the same key values. Ken is far more likely to be on the floor playing with or being climbed on by Reid. I’m sure Reid would say he is more fun. Ken isn’t all rough and tumble, though. He’ll read book after book, even the ones that he thinks are causing a sort of slow lobotomy.

He also snuggles with Reid to watch Toopy and Binoo, Roly Poly Olie or whatever is the current fascination – and what’s more, he remembers to record new episodes just at the point that I think I’ll go nutty if I have to hear a particular episode one more time. And “hear” is the right verb, I usually succumb to the tempatation to read or tidy up or something while Reid is watching a program. Ken simply sits with her. He knows what is happening in the program and is prepared to discuss it. Reid has many questions and comments when she watches a show, whether it;s the first or 31st time.  Sometimes he can only say, “I don’t know, Reid, I haven’t seen it before either,” but he is in the room and in the moment. That’s a lesson that I’m trying to learn from him.

Ken and Reid go to play at the park and leave me behind to be alone (a true blessing when you’re a mama and work full-time) or to make supper or clean (still good, since I can put on my iPod and focus on what needs to be done). They also have museums that the go to without me most of the time. Remember when I was in Toronto and confessed that I didn’t like science museums, well, Reid and Ken do. The Nature Museum, Canada Aviation Museum and the Museum of Science and Technology are mainly their domain. Reid would tell you that the Nature Museum is the dinosaur museum and “hers” while the latter two are daddy’s museums.  Ken’s patience is demonstrated in these museums as well. I coach myself to be patient and let Reid explore at her own pace but I think that he actually does it.

Lately, Ken has been getting up early so that he can have breakfast with Reid before they leave in the morning. Often I come downstairs to hear them chatting or laughing. I see Reid mooching Ken’s oatmeal. She likes the taste of the cinnamon and raisin packaged oatmeal but not the raisins themselves. He doesn’t complain when he is left with a pile of raisins and some chilly oatmeal, though he has been known to remark on the situation.

Ken is always with us at bedtime even though I nurse Reid to sleep. He. waits (more or less) patiently as she winds down and then reads her a story or two.  After a kiss and a hug, he shuts out the light and leaves us but not before telling Reid he loves her and good night. Reid says, “I love you. Dood night, Bye-bye” and a wave. On the good nights, she allows breaks between the words. Often she whispers, “I love you, Daddy.” if he has said “I love you.” just as he shuts the door. And you may remember that Reid cries when Ken isn’t there at bedtime.

Ken’s life has changed a lot since Reid came but he remains my best friend. We don’t have as much time to talk about anything and everything as we once did but we still have lots to talk about. He is a deep thinker and that European history that he learned has given him quite a perspective on things. (So says the one who focused on Canadian history and has only an M.A., not that the topic ever comes up ;+) Ken is compassionate and irreverant, quiet and loving. Reid is lucky to have such a man for her father and I’m grateful to have him beside me in the trenches of parenthood.

Happy Birthday to Ken

Tuesday, July 10th, 2007

Sunday was Ken’s birthday. I’m happy to say that he had mostly recovered from the intestinal bug that made him so sick Friday night and Saturday. He was still suffering from that affliction he is frequently beset with: delusions of anonymity. His primary symptom is a fervent belief that simply by willing Reid and I (and the rest of the world) not to make a big deal of his birthday (or other event focused on him), the day will pass without note being taken. But we just can’t do it. How can we not celebrate “our man’s” birthday? Wouldn’t it be just plain wrong? We think so!

Barb and Terry came to visit on Saturday even though Ken was sick. At first I cancelled but then Ken said that Reid and I might as well have visitors (and did he think it would keep us out of his hair, who knows ;+) Ken managed a brief appearance while we ate some of the angel food cake that I’d bought as a pre-birthday cake. Reid and I enjoyed Grandma Barb and Grandpa Terry’s visit. We had a nice lunch, if I do say so myself. I even made devilled eggs for the first time ever. Reid watched like a hawk as I peeled the hard boiled eggs. I convinced her to wait until I’d cut one in half. She ate her half quickly and snatched a second half before realizing that I’d already scooped out the yolk. She dropped it and it broke. I told her I could I hide it with the fancy yolk. As we passed the eggs around, Reid piped up to ask if I’d eaten the broken one. No one had noticed or at least they hadn’t commented but Reid remembered. We laughed and she seemed a bit confused. We went to the Science and Technology museum for the special firefighting exhibit. There was a fire truck and the safety trailer in the parking lot and a couple old fire trucks in the train gallery but that was pretty much it for “specialness”. Reid was happy to look at the fire truck in the parking lot, especially since she was allowed to drive a bit and then to get in the back. We talked about Sheila and Michael in Robert Munsch’s *The Fire Station*  because they also rode in the back of a fire truck. She has talked about the big flashlights that we saw several times since.

On Sunday, we had a pleasantly quiet day and then had supper with Amanda and Nam. I made lasagna and apple pie. Amanda, Reid and I carried much of the converational load but we didn’t mind ;+) Nam and Ken seemed happy enough and got their words in when they wanted to. When Ken and I discussed what sort of cake he wanted, at first he just said “not chocolate.” After further consideration – or was it pestering – he agreed that an apple pie would please him.

Reid was witness to the discussion and assured us a couple times that *she* wanted a cake for her birthday. Let there be no doubt of that. They’re polar opposites about birthdays, those two. Reid is anticipating the BIG DAY and making requests for what is to happen. I’m not sure whether she will choose pizza or curry. If it is the former, I hope she’ll have forgotten about macaroni pizza by then. I have no idea where this notion came from or how to meet the request. She hasn’t got a list of presents she is asking for, though. I think she’d like a magnifying glass as I mentioned previously or maybe binoculars. She has been holding her hands to her eyes as hand-oculars off and on over the last few days. She might also like a scratch We have two scratch and sniff books at home. One is about Strawberry Shortcake and friends and is a bit syrupy and damaging to adult braincells. The other is a Little Monster book, a hand-me-down with very little scent remaining that is sniff-worthy, that Reid hopefully scratches at every opportunity.

Museum confessions

Tuesday, June 19th, 2007

I have to make a confession: I’m really not into natural history museums or even science centres.

On Sunday, Reid and I spent a couple of hours at the Ontario Science Centre while Aunt Karin sat on the grass and tried to feel better. We spent all of our time in the KidSpark – punny, eh, with a good double entendre. There was an enormous, and noisy, sculpture that required the kids to help move some of the balls along their paths and Reid did so repeatedly at a couple of places. Rather than testing process and discovering that it worked consistently, like when she was little and the spoon dropped from her highchair always fell down to the floor, the balls had a few variations of what they would do. There were signs explaining about the probability of various outcomes but Reid enjoyed the observation exercise without the statistics. Once into the kids’ zone proper, Reid went confidently from exhibit to exhibit, exploring each as long as her interest was held. I noted this particularly because Reid tends to like to evaluate a new situation or person before jumping in. At museums, though, she hurries to whatever catches her interest in her little wiggling half-run that sets her ponytails swinging.

My favourite activity was the panels of pins that you can press a body part against and then see the 3-D version on the other side. Reid really enjoyed the stage and pretend guitars. She liked seeing herself on the tv monitor and the differently shaped guitars. The biggest hit for Reid was probably the mini Market (like Loblaws or Zehrs) with President’s Choice products, plus meat, fish, fruit and veggies that she could shop for and then check out. She got to be the cashier once her basket was full and I was the customer. I was also the one who was the stock boy. I wonder if other parents were thinking, “Wow, this is good product placement.”

I’m happy that she had fun at the various stations but I’m not sure what she is learning at most of them and I don’t know what conversation that I should have with her to help her understand what is happening. Maybe it’s my fault, I did drop science after grade 10. Maybe it really is all about me.

On Monday, we went to the Royal Ontario Museum. As soon as we walked in, we saw three dinosaur skeletons on a wall. Or at least once we cleared the security check, which included a bag search, we saw them. Reid had a big smile on her face but the guard cautioned us that there weren’t many more. I thought they were better displayed than at the Canadian Nature Museum. We visited the reptiles display because it was between the elevator and the kids’ zone. Aunt Karin commented that there were too many snakes for her but she looked at a lot more of them than than I did. Stuffed dead animals creep me out a bit and since I have no warm and fuzzy feelings toward reptiles …

We spent a long time in the hands-on biodiversity gallery. Reid looked intently at the butterflies pinned to the board, the little stuffed mice, squireels and what not. She asked no questions about their “deadness” but was delighted to see them up close. Her enthusiasm was infectious and, when combined with my determination to be a “good mom”, this helped me to slow down. I thought of the scene from that movie about the President of the US where the tour guide leads the group around the White House saying, “We’re walking, we’re walking.” But I didn’t say it. Does anyone remember what movie that was? There were some old school discovery cases (remember I put myself through university working in museums and so I notice these things). Reid spent lots of time with these – looking at plastic bugs with a magnifying glass, smelling cinnanmon and other things, looking through devices that simulated how bees, dragon flies, and other creature things, etc. I’m going to make a mental note to have Reid smell more things at home and will be putting a magnifiying glass and plastic bugs on her birthday wish list. I was impressed by Reid’s ability to focus on each of the boxes for an extended period of time.

After awhile, we went into the kids room (I can’t remember if it had a cutesy name). Reid and I “dug” for dinosaur bones in some fake sand using paintbrushes. She was very interested in this activity. Her daycare has had dinosaurs as the theme for two or three weeks and so the special exhibit at the zoo and the dinosaur dig and skeletons on the way in really resonated with her. We cuddled and read a few books but only How Do Dinosaurs Play With Their Friends?“>How Do Dinosaurs Play With Their Friends? by Jane Yolen had a link to any of the displays. I was starting fall asleep and so didn’t protest when Reid decided to go play with a tea set. Aunt Karin did lay on the bean bag couch and I’m pretty sure that she managed a nap. Reid has been getting her naps in but Aunt Karin and I haven’t managed any. Reid tried on a chainmail hood and I tried on a metal helmet but I couldn’t talk her into posing for a picture. We may end up with nothing to prove that we were both in Toronto together. (Not that I want a lot of photos of me but one of us would be nice.) Reid was playing with some plastic dinosaurs when a little girl touched CareB and Reid decided it was time to go. I didn’t let her knock the little girl away but we did leave quite soon. Aunt Karin and I were tired enough to jump on the excuse to leave. We’d been there about 3 hours and on our feet throughout. Reid was fresh but she is young, rides in a stroller and naps. Quick, call a waanh-mbulance!

Other than the creepiness factor, an I was as pleased as Reid to be able to get up close to the lion, cheetah, bear cub, moose, etc. I still didn’t know what to say about most of the exhibits or what she is learning, though. Hmmm, I sound a bit like a control freak, don’t I? I *did* finally figure out what the difference was between a cheetah and a leopard because there was a stuffed one of each. The cheetah’s spots are smaller and solidly dark while the leopard’s spots are bigger and have a light centre.

I think my ambivalence stems from not knowing what learning is happening in natural history or science centres. I think that they’re good as an alternative to amusement parks or street. As someone trained in history and who worked in historic sites, I’m much more comfortable in history museums, even those with content that is outside of knowledge base. I know the how and why of these museums.  If there was some sort of guide for parents at the museum or science centres, I’d read it. Maybe I should do some Web research …

To demonstrate her unerring sense of when I need to sleep in

Monday, June 11th, 2007

On Saturday night I stayed up too late – wait for it – filing bills and working on our finances. When Reid woke up at 5:30 and asked if it was waking up time and I said “absolutely not”. I dozed a bit but she didn’t and we got up at 6:00. We were dressed and out of the house by 6:30. Thank goodness that Eddy’s (or Didi’s as we call it) is open 24 hours. Didi was even there this week and our breakfast was served so quickly that we were back in the car by 7:15. We went to a 24 hour Loeb to get a few things that they didn’t have at Costco and then we went to the Byward Market in search of rhubarb (and because we still had an hour to kill before the museum opened). We found no rhubarb but we did get a couple of sunflowers in pots. I’d meant to grow them from seeds but going to San Diego and then home for Easter through me off my spring planting schedule ;+) Since we *still* had time to kill, Reid and I split a hot chocolate and a cookie from the pastry shop. We both liked the hot chocolate and rejected the very beautiful tulip cookie that was bland and hard. Sigh. We lead a tough life. In the end, we got to the Children’s Museum/Museum of Civilization about 9:05. We toured the China’s Treasures special exhibit. Reid was interested in the horse figurines, a brush for the calligraphy, some scrolls and figuring out if she could get on top of the cases. We moved (relatively) quietly, if quickly, through the exhibit and I know whether I want to go back (I don’t). For the record, we saw three horses and I didn’t let Reid climb on top of the display cases. I think I’ll use these preview options more rather than declining the special exhibit tickets as I usually do. We don’t pay extra for them since we’re members and at some point Reid will need to know how to behave in the non-children’s part of the museum. We spoke briefly with a fellow in a red serge RCMP uniform before a tour group rushed up for a photo op and rode the escalators for the sheer joy of riding the escalators before heading to the Children’s Museum. Reid was more interested in the displays than she has been before. She was more confident in going from one to the next and able to manipulate the interactive pieces. We had a nice visit, even though the outdoor part was closed, maybe even because it was closed since we weren’t rushing through. Next time we might only go outside. We finished up at a painting activity back in the main part. One of the artists whose work was part of the “In My Lifetime” exhibit of contemporary aboriginal art, Neal MacLeod, was helping with the painting activity. He suggested dipping the brush into the paint and then into the water before painting to create closer to a watercolour effect. I’d have never thought to do that. He also showed us to draw with an oil pastel and then paint with the same colour for a cool effect. Reid liked getting to use the water more often but wasn’t at all interested in the crayon/paint combo. She was interested to know as well that he painted pictures as a job, though. He is also teaches at Trent University but that wasn’t as interesting to Reid. Reid fell asleep about 4 minutes from home despite me tickling her and being as silly as I can be. I woke her for lunch and she got a bit of a second wind. Not me, I fell asleep while Ken was reading a before-nap book, albeit a long one because Reid got to choose it and she is wily that way. Reid and I both enjoyed that nap! After her nap, Reid went with Ken to the Aviation Museum for what was advertised as a Sunday Funday. They saw no evidence of any special activity but that’s okay. They like the planes. (No accounting for taste ;+) Reid was excited about a yellow helicopter that they could see into that is usually closed and also about a trio of helicopters, a daddy, a mama and a baby one. They tried to play on the structure too but it was too hot and they had to come home. I made curry for supper and Reid ate her body weight. The night before, she had three bites of pork chop, a couple cucumber slices and a swig of milk before going to read books to herself in the dining room. It’s true what my books say about looking at what a kid takes in over a week rather than just one day.

Made-in-Ottawa Family

Tuesday, May 22nd, 2007

I started out last weekend a bit melancholy because no one was coming to visit. Last year, Grandma Joyce, Aunt Karin, Shea and Jaycee had planned a visit and then Uncle Roger and Danielle hopped in at the last minute and so we had a houseful. The weather was cold and rainy but we had fun. The year before that, Grandpa Keith and Granny Rhonda came for a day. I guess my brain decided that Victoria Day weekend was a weekend when people visited us. I’m a girl of habit – Easter is with my family because both the weekend and the drive are longer and Thanksgiving is with Ken’s family, we alternate Christmas and then there is Victoria Day … Well, I decided to keep us busy and rely on my own made-in-Ottawa family. On Saturday afternoon, Reid and I met Melissa, Stephen, Sarah and Ben at the swimming pool by our house. We spent an hour and a half floating and splashing, watching the kids do tricks and chatting. Sarah was the best big sister a girl could want – keeping Reid entertained, encouraging her to jump in and that sort of thing. Ben went down the slide over and over and Stephen offered a taste of big brother, benign neglect with a few tricks in the mix. After swimming, we had chicken quesadillas at our house. Once again the kids sat at Reid’s table and ate from the matching plates/glasses/cutlery that Brianna gave for my baby shower. Melissa’s kids really like the novelty of the table and the plates, etc. though they are past all but kids glasses at their house. They all wanted to play in the basement. It’s still exotic for Melissa’s kids to go downstairs and Reid loves to go down whenever she gets a chance. Melissa and I were able to visit until we started to fade, even though the kids were still going fast and strong.

On Sunday morning, Reid and I went to Eddy’s for breakfast, a tradition that has lapsed of late with all of the travelling that we’ve been doing. Didi, “our” waitress wasn’t in and neither was Sara, the busgirl who always stops to visit. The waitress that did come by – I think her name is Cathy – was happy to see us and treated us well. After breakfast, we went to The Farm, “our farm” as Reid calls it. We saw our usual friends – the horses, Bella and Lady, who have pulled us on wagon and sleigh rides and their friends, Ted and King, as well as Goody the Bull (and we talked about daddy cows being called bulls) and all of the other animals. There was a man shearing sheep in one building. We stopped to see him trim the hooves of one and then shear her. We’d already seen a little lamb crying for her mama and so we both hoped that she would be going back to her baby soon. Reid carded wool, felted it (actually she didn’t want to touch it and so the museum staff member did the rolling and squeezing) and then dyed it. Note to self: somewhere in my house or car is a small ball of blue wool that I should probably locate. Reid also made a little sheep from a tracing of her hand on black construction paper and some cotton balls. Reid loves glue and cotton balls are always fun, don’t you think? It would be a good Sunday School craft for a “lamb of God” sort of lesson. Right before we left, we stopped to see a sheep dog working a herd of about 10 sheep. The shepherd used a combination of verbal commands and gesturing with a cane to give directions. It was a neat demonstration. Before we got to the admission booth, Reid had decided not to take a wagon ride this trip and I was glad that she hadn’t changed her mind as we had to walk by the place you get on the wagon in order to get to our car. She waved and watched the wagon go by and got into her car seat without comment.

Daddy had lunch ready for us when we got home. I’d called ahead because Reid had droopy eyes on the drive. Of course, she perked up when we got home but it was still nice to come home to prepared food. We had a most welcome nap – the hardest thing about travelling is missing my nap – and then it was time for Reid and Daddy time while I went for groceries. We had a relaxed supper and evening. Another good day, I thought.

On Monday, after waking up 45 minutes later than usual, which doesn’t happen often in our house, we had a fine, family cuddle in the big bed. Reid and Daddy went to the Science and Technology Museum to see the trains and other exhibits. At first Reid asked about the dinosaur museum (Nature Museum) and so we should be probably be planning a trip there but we don’t have a membership to it and it’s not my favourite. Neither is the Aviation Museum, though, but at least Ken enjoys it. I haven’t been back since the Nature Museum reopened after major renovations, perhaps I’ll like it better. At the Science and Tech museum they saw some trains, including one with wheels BIGGER THAN DADDY and she made a conductors hat. They rode on a snowmobile together although Reid first thought she could handle it alone. While they were in the space exhibit Reid declared her intention to be an astronaut. We’ll see if that works out. If it does, you heard it here first. After lunch and a nap, we tackled the garden and yards. Reid is a born gardener. She loves to dig, use “her rake” (my three-pronged claw tool) and shovel and plant those poor flowers that I bought on Sunday. First I had to convince her that she couldn’t pick the blooms and then I had to talk about how delicate the the roots were. She listened carefully and tried her best to comply. Oh, and watering, well Reid would specialize in watering full time if we allowed it – hose or watering can, it doesn’t matter. Reid started out with jeans on, or almost on, but they kept falling down and finally we put a pair of shorts on her. But not before Ken took a picture of her gardening with her jeans almost to her knees. It’s too bad we couldn’t get a picture of the grin on her face when she noticed how far they had fallen. A bath was definitely required. Fun is dirty, though, isn’t it.