Archive for October, 2007

Teach your children about elevators

Wednesday, October 10th, 2007

Please take some time the next time you ride in an elevator to explain to your kids that when an elevator car is leaving and you push the “call” button, the first elevator won’t be able to leave. If the first elevator car doesn’t leave, none of the other doors will ever open and you will never be able to get on a different elevator car and go wherever you want to go. I’ve talked about this sort of thing with Reid. There are many people in this world whose parents seem to have missed this lesson and they are always in the lobby with me when I’m running late for work.

And once the right elevator doors are open, those waiting to board should stand aside so that the ones in the elevator can get out. If you can, figure out where the people are most likely to go when they leave the elevator and stand on the other side. Those lines we stood in after recess at elementary school would be worth emulating.

While you’re on the subject of elevator etiquette, you could explain that the last person to get in the elevator gets to get off first when more than one person is exiting at the same time. If someone needs to exit and you’re in front, you step out of their way maybe even out of the elevator to let them pass.

If everyone followed these rules, it would definitely work for me on Wednesdays and every day.

Next week, maybe I’ll tackle what to do when bloggers you read rant about something as simple as riding an elevator. For more tips, visit Rocks in My Dryer for this week’s Works for Me Wednesday links.

Great Wolf Lodge 2007, day 3

Tuesday, October 9th, 2007

One of the coolest things about the Great Wolf Lodge is that you can play in the waterpark whenever you arrive, not having to wait until the 3:00 pm check-in, and you can stay until the waterpark closes at 10:00 pm on the day you check-out. I arranged for a late check-out and so we were able to eat both breakfast and lunch in our room. We sandwiched a trip to the waterpark into the middle of the meals, of course.

After lunch, we went took our luggage to our cars, keeping a few clothes with us. When we got back to the waterpark, I noticed that the sign above the door to the outdoor pool had changed from it’s “no exit” sign. Aunt Karin was doubtful but it turned out that I’d read the meaning of the change in sign properly. A victory for little sisters everywhere! It had been foggy and trying to rain when we first got up – the first I’d noticed the weather since we first walked in to the lodge – but the fog was gone and it was beautiful and sunny. The pool outside was one of those gently sloping beaches but with no waves. Reid loved it! It was a good combination – warm water and a bright sun – a “stolen” day of fabulous weather in October that could easily have been cool and rainy as fall often is. We chased each other and played about. Aunt Karin lifted Reid up so that I could swim through her legs. I’d been swimming underwater quite a bit Wednesday and Thursday, much to Reid’s amusement. Aunt Karin and I reminisced about Poppa Howard swimming underwater with a kid on his back. I floated on my back and Reid pulled me around. She told me that I was a boat. I told her that if she was pulling me around, that *she* was a tugboat. Aunt Karin helpfully chimed in with the comment that since Reid was a tugboat, I must be the barge. There are fewer things nicer than being called a “barge”, really. ;+) After a while, we laid back on chaise lounges and ate some Dippin Dots, maybe I earned the barge comment.

We spent some more time warming up in the Cub Club. Given that our turn in the hotel room was over, as I explained to Reid, we were especially grateful for a fun place to hang out and warm up. I’ve been saying “warm up” but must also tell you that the waterpark was kept at 84 degrees and the water in all pools was warm. Reid’s little body just wasn’t able to heat enough of the water to avoid purple lips. Reid coloured a page and then moved on to the large foam blocks at the end of the room. Aunt Karin settled on the floor nearby with her book. I think Reid and I were a bit hard on her head after a while. Being with a 3 year old full time is intense, add that to being with your sister with whom you haven’t lived full time for 30 years, well, escaping into a book is a welcome diversion. I went to the Canoe Coffee Shop for tea, coffee and water and then came back to doing some building with blocks of my own.

Reid didn’t want me to add blocks to her tower but wasn’t reticent about “helping” me with my tower. We had built a humdinger of a tall tower, taller than Reid, and had moved on to a second tower before a wayward block or maybe an unplanned movement by Reid knocked over both towers. She looked a bit shocked and immediately apologized. I assured her that we should just be proud of what we’d done. Reid shrugged off the disappointment and decided to bury herself, with help from me, in the blocks all over the floor. Do all kids bury themselves in toys, sand and the rest? I know I started it with sand at the beach on our Bataan Death March vacation in 2005 but she seeks it out now.

Reid and I went to the Bear Claw Cafe for treats while Aunt Karin was outside for a while. Reid chose a “tuptake” with green icing and flower-shaped cookie sticking from the top. I had a brownie with sprinkles on top. We shared a bottle of water and talked of this and that, just like one does with a girlfriend. Okay, my memory is blurry but I’m probably misleading you. It’s more likely that Reid asked me questions, many questions, with lots of “why’s?” in there. I had just packed up half of the brownie for Aunt Karin when she appeared. With our snack finished, we headed back to the waterpark one last time. Reid didn’t give a thought to any of her previous favourites – not Otter Lake, not the beach at Rainbow Lake, not even Chipmunk Cove – and headed straight for the outdoor pool.  After more splashing, floating and giggling, it was time to dry off again and get ready for dinner with Aunt Elaine.

Being a vain woman, I noticed my hair was somewhat worse for wear and here I was about to have dinner with Aunt Elaine. Of course, I’d last seen her at the family reunion at the Bluewater Fun Park but that wasn’t on the third day of 3 plus hours per day in the water. There is an Aveda Elements Spa in the lodge. I’d hoped to get a pedicure while we were there but hadn’t managed it. Still, I thought of them and decided to cough up the cost of mini bottles of shampoo and conditioner. It turns out that they’ve discontinued the mini bottles because they’re environmentally unfriendly. The receptionist was willing to give me samples from the salon in the little container you get sour cream in for takeout meals. They smelled like they were natural, made from moss or leaves or something, made my hair feel so nice! Another time, I’ll have to go to the spa for sure.

We got to Jack Astor’s in St Catharines before Aunt Elaine and they sat us at a table for 6 covered in kraft paper. I thought the big booth was nice because it allowed Reid room to roam. When Aunt Elaine arrived, she had brought cousin Loralei (sp?) and her little girl, Emma. What a nice surprise! We all ate well. I’d never been to Jack Astor’s before but was certainly satisfied. The next time I’ll have to order the pan bread. Loralei shared a bit of hers and it was good!

We were late getting into the car to head back to Frankford, the midway point of our drive, and no sooner got on the highway before the thick fog settled in. Overall, we made decent time, though, and got to Grandma Barb and Grandpa Terry’s at 10:30. We were awake for maybe 7 minutes after we arrived and slept like logs until 7:20.

You can also read about our first day or even our second day.

Grandma Barb had an appointment and so we ate breakfast and were back on the road by 8:00. The hurrying was good. Reid and I were both eager to get home to Ken. Reid was good in her car seat. She played with stickers, markers and Playdough – new stuff since I’ve been reminded that there is a difference – and talked my ear off. Again we made good time. Reid didn’t speak about being close to home until we were just around the corner from our house. She looked up, saw where we were, and said, “Hey! We’re almost there!” Ken got good hugs and kisses from both us and then we ate lunch and went for a nap, like we’d never been gone.

Great Wolf Lodge 2007, day 2

Monday, October 8th, 2007

Our suite, like all at the Great Wolf Lodge, featured a microwave as well as the usual refrigerator and coffee maker. Being the thrifty sort, I had packed a picnic bag with food for breakfast and lunch and the required dishes to eat them. And, of course, I hit Grandma Joyce up for the spaghetti rice for supper the night before. Reid decided the most tempting breakfast food we’d brought was the bag of Nutrios that had been in our picnic bag since last September’s visit to the Great Wolf Lodge. Aunt Karin and I ate Apples and Cinnamon instant oatmeal and I had flashbacks to eating it as a child. It’s funny, isn’t it, how evocative food is?

We decided to explore the lobby first thing, though we couldn’t leave the room without our bathing suits on and Reid insisted on putting on her lifejacket, too. One of the mascots, either Wiley the Wolf or Biko the Bear, is scheduled to appear at the Antler Shanty at 8:00 am each day. We’d discussed having coffee and toast but the hostess told us that we could only order the $14.99 breakfast buffet. We camped out in the lobby between the hallway where the mascots “live” and the entrance to the restaurant. Reid was willing to give Biko a high-five when he appeared but I still made a point of asking the Cub Club guy if Wiley the Wolf would be back for the evening’s story time. We stuck around for the Wolf Walk, a tour of the lobby led by one of the Cub Club personnel to learn about the various animals in the lobby. They talked about the animals, walked like them and made the sounds that they make. Reid was more inclined to stick close to Aunt Karin (I had snuck to the other side of the lobby to post a blog entry, thanks to the wireless hotspot) and they joined me before the kids made origami wolves.  We decided to skip the 10:00 am Forest Friends Breakfast show and went to the waterpark.

Aunt Karin and I pitched the smallest slides and the single level twisty slides a few times but Reid wasn’t willing to try them. Reid and I tackled the 2+ storey slides on Fort Mackenzie, instead. She was so brave sliding away although she would have preferred for me to be able to slide with her like we did when we went to the Bluewater Fun Park in August. Mostly, though, we played on the “beach” at Rainbow Lake, on the floating animals in Otter Lake and in Chipmunk Cove. And we wrapped up in the hot tub – well, the somewhat warm tub – to turn Reid’s lips back from blue to pink. On our way to the locker room, we discovered a bathing suit dryer – really a mini spinner – that was surprisingly effective in getting the moisture out. I’d been switching bathing suits to keep from having to put on a wet one.

We went into the Cub Club and Reid painted a china pumpkin piggy bank with her head nodding and the slowest blinks possible without closing entirely. We had a quick lunch in our room and then Reid and I went into the Wolf Den for a nap. The bunk is pretty narrow for two but we were really tired. Reid watched a couple of episodes of Toopy and Binoo when she woke up. What did parents do before laptops and DVDs, I ask you?

We went back to the waterpark for another hour and then we went to the Antler Shanty for supper. What a mistake that was! The food was mediocre and the service was awful. I ordered Spider Dogs and Ants on a Log for Reid. The hotdog, with its end split in 4 to make it into a spider, arrived promptly but the celery with cream cheese and raisins required to requests and an extended wait. Aunt Karin and I ordered prime rib, which came with a salad bar. We had had no more than three bites of our salad before the rest of our meal arrived. The Yorkshire puddings were more difficult to cut than the prime rib. The dessert bar section of the meal involved 3 types of squares of the sort one can buy at M&M Meats , soft serve ice cream and yellow Jello. The waitress brought our bill without offering coffee or tea. I ordered some anyway. Aunt Karin’s coffee cost $2.99, wasn’t hot when it arrived and she wasn’t offered a refill. Our waitress’ name tag said that she was a trainer and I can only imagine that the others were even worse. I offer these details as a warning. There is little to complain about at the  Great Wolf Lodge but the Antler Shanty is certainly to be avoided. I had to confess to Ken that we’d gone – the restaurant was bad last year and so I got little sympathy from him for being silly enough to go back, not did I deserve any. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

 Aunt Karin took Reid to the lobby for the Forest Friends Evening Show and Bedtime stories while I stayed in the room, feeling somewhat ill. The break did me good and I was grateful that I wasn’t solo with Reid on the trip. Reid was delighted to see Wiley the Wolf. Life works out some days.

Edited to add: You can also read about our first day or even our third day.

Great Wolf Lodge 2007, day 1

Saturday, October 6th, 2007

We made good time on our drive, even staying at 100 kilometres an hour through Toronto and got to the Great Wolf Lodge in Niagara Falls by 2:30. I’m sure that the oversized, synthetic log cabin looks the same at any of their many locations but it’s fun to get your first glimpse of it. Reid and I actually beat Aunt Karin here. (Aunt Karin has the reputation of a speedy racer.) Aunt Karin had joked that if I said we’d be here at 2:30 or 3:00, she would plan to arrive at 3:30 and be here when I arrived. Or at least I told myself that she was joking.

Reid and I waited in line at the reception desk while the 3 business men in front of us checked in. From their reactions to the wristbands and mention of the waterpark, I don’t think they’d read about where they were coming for their meetings. Just as the last fellow walked away, Reid announced that she needed to go to the bathroom. We’d driven straight from Frankford, about 3 hours, and so it was a reasonable, if inconveniently-timed, request. There was no line when we returned and I was able to check-in quickly. The woman at the desk heard me tell Reid to go look to see if Aunt Karin had arrived and asked if I wanted adjacent rooms. I explained that I had no man with me and Aunt Karin had brought no kids but thought it was smart of the woman to offer to put 2 parties together. We received our wristbands and were headed to the car with a luggage cart as Aunt Karin walked in. The wrist bands function as room keys, lock and unlock the lockers in the waterpark and are scanned in the stores and cafes when you charge items to your room. It’s so convenient not to have to worry about where to keep a key card or money when you’re wandering the hotel or waterpark. As someone who once found herself on the wrong side of the locked hotel door in a bathrobe – and thank goodness for the bathrobe’s the Delta Montreal provides – I’m always looking for easy ways to keep my key. (Yes, I do have trouble with keys.)

In the short time we were in line, Reid had time to be awed by the animatronic animals in the lobby. There are wolves and racoons on the wall above the fireplace and a moose, bear and owl by the wold’s den and also a talking tree. Reid also discovered a couple of chipmunks in the rocks that make up the registration desk. At first, she touched the handprint on the wall without knowing what would happen. She jumped back a couple of feet, covering her mouth with her hands and staring in amazement as the chipmunk chattered at her. Once she was more comfortable, she still took a couple of hurried steps backward once she triggered the chipmunk. The moose, bear, owl and tree are much bigger than the chipmunks, of course, but don’t seem to be as disconcerting to Reid. Perhaps they don’t surprise her as they are in plain sight or because they don’t have the high-energy and high-pitched voices of the chipmunks. Seeing Reid’s smiles and knowing how much time we’d whiled away without even getting to the room, I was pretty optimistic that I’d chosen a good location for our mini-vacation.

I had booked a room with a Wolf Den this year. Last year, we were upgraded for free from a regular room to a room with Kid’s Cabin and so I switched to the Wolf Den because I’m nosey. The Wolf Den is a mini-room within the main room that looks like it is recessed into rocks. It has a window and doorway (no door) and a bunk bed, small table and a flat panel monitor tv with video game controller. The Kid’s Cabin had an additional bed but the rest was the same. I don’t know what system the controller works with or how to get the games since Reid doesn’t play and neither do I. The walls are papered as a mural with wolves and over forest creatures. Reid immediately headed for the ladder to the top bunk but required some assistance. As always I was pleased with her caution, I think it is a healthy reaction as long as she still tries the activity. I’m glad she isn’t a daredevil.

With only minimal, but mandatory, unpacking accomplished, we got into our swimsuits and headed to the waterparks. Unlike last year, I’d remembered sandals for both Reid and me. We put our things into lockers and I dragged Reid away from the first pool and on a tour of the waterpark so that she would know what her options were. Reid was most interested in the first pool with its floating snake, beaver, acorn and leaf pile. We returned there and she climbed on each of the floating things in turn – the snake is big enough to warrant climbing onto the head and tail separately. I climbed onto the snake with her and just as quickly slipped back off, to the amusement of both Aunt Karin and Reid. Undaunted, I climbed back on although I was a bit more careful the second time. Reid was quite taken with the pool where you’re supposed to hold onto a rope netting and walk across lily pads, leaves and slices of logs but it isn’t for girls who are 3.

I got both Aunt Karin and Reid to agree to a ride on inner tubes on Crystal River. It’s somewhat challenging to get yourself and a 3 year old comfortably seated in a round inner tube – Reid refused the figure 8 version – but I managed (Supermama!) and we enjoyed the ride. The river is *really* lazy. I’m not sure that one could complete a circuit without assisting the current or if you just have to be much more patient that Aunt Karin and I were. We both ended up walking or paddling a bit. Reid insisted on bringing our inner tube out of the water herself, paying no regard to the fact that the tube was rounder than she was tall. Determined girl, that Reid. Isn’t “determined” so much nicer than “stubborn”?

When we got to the “beach”, we played in the calm water for a while. Once the waves started, I looked at Reid to see what we’d do next. She was grinning and so Aunt Karin and I walked her a bit deeper and helped her to jump the waves as they broke at our feet. Reid laughed as the water splashed in her face and as she jumped. She encouraged us to go deeper. This was not the same daughter I’d carried from the waves last year. That girl was a mere toddler, brave in her way but still a toddler. The “new” Reid, at 38 months, talks through her fears and plans how she’ll act. When we first discussed the waterpark, Reid declared – unprompted – that she was not going to cry or move her head from side to side (like she does when I’m rinsing her hair in the tub) at the waterpark. Instead she would be getting her whole head wet, even her forehead. She would get wet all over, just like a fish. And she has. Last year, the big breakthrough she experienced was making Reid comfortable enough in the water that she was willing to break the vice grip on my neck that she applied whenever we got into a pool. This year, I’ve seen Reid’s confidence bloom.

We ate supper in our room, thanks to Grandma Joyce making spagetti rice at my request to send with Aunt Karin. She sent fresh cut veggies, too. Aren’t I spoiled? The room has a bar fridge and microwave along with the usual coffee pot. The microwave has a warning on it about being careful when cooking popcorn and instructions on what to do if the popcorn burns, including the requirement to call the front desk and open the patio door and direction NOT to open the room door. I wonder what they pay each time the fire department comes out for a false alarm triggered by burnt popcorn. Our microwave at home is on its last legs and takes forever to heat things. This one is very powerful. Supper didn’t come a moment too soon for Reid. She pulled the food out of the fridge and was setting the table as soon as she took her bathing suit off. We’d had an early lunch and skipped snack in favour of the waterpark. When her bowl of spagetti rice was in front of her, she declared it a favourite food and dug in. I had to go to one of the coffee shops to buy milk for supper. They didn’t have any skim milk in cartons but the woman working did sell me some in a coffee cup. I haven’t seen any comment cards but I’ll have to look for one. That little bit of effort made me a happy woman.

After supper we had time for another half hour or so in the waterpark before we had to get ready for storytime. Aunt Karin supervised from the deck, where she sat with a book, and Reid and I spent most of our time in Chipmunk Cove. This pool has 4 slides – 2 straight ones and 2 gently twisting ones – and is about waist-deep on Reid. It is reserved for people under 4 feet tall and those accompanying a child. Reid liked playing in this pool with water that came to her waist. She particularly liked the low basketball hoops when someone would lift her up so that she could slam dunk the ball.

With Reid in her pajamas, we headed to the lobby for the forest friends show and storytime. Reid had milk and cookies as a bedtime snack. There were Teddy Grahams in a clear plastic cup with a lid that had a noise-maker and straw sticking from the top. It was really festive. I think it would be good as a take-home treat at a birthday party. We listened to the mother bear and her cubs as they talked with the moose, raccoon and tree. Reid clapped along with the songs, doing the actions when prompted. The fellow from the Cub Club performed a very energetic reading of Mmm, Cookies! and Mud Puddle by Robert Munsch. I was a bit worried that Reid would get too wound up to sleep but when it was time for the Great Wolf Lodge howl, Reid laid her head on my shoulder. The only flaw in the proceedings was that Wiley Wolf didn’t come out for the stories. Biko the Bear came in his place but Reid didn’t see it as a fair exchange.

After a brief discussion of why Reid couldn’t sleep on the top bunk, Reid asked to sleep in the queen size bed and Aunt Karin agreed to sleep on the bottom bunk. I managed a brief call to Ken that would have convinced him that I was drunk had he not been familiar with how I get when I’m tired. We all stumbled to the bathroom and into our beds.

Edited to add: Our lodge story continues with day 2 and day 3.

Having a kid who knows her numbers is useful

Wednesday, October 3rd, 2007

When we woke from our nap today, I wondered what time it was. I wondered because I couldn’t see the clock on the microwave without my glasses. I asked Reid if she could see the numbers and she said, “yes” in tone that said that everyone who was anyone could see the numbers. I asked her what they were and she said, “S, 5 and 4″.  I told her, “thanks” and suggested that the “S” was probably a “2″. I think that we’ll work a bit on firming up Reid’s number recognition skills and then I won’t have to worry about my glasses nearly as much as I do now.

Life lessons – tooth paste and orange juice

Wednesday, October 3rd, 2007

I was using the bathroom and Aunt Karin was watching over Reid as she brushed her teeth. Reid scrub, scrub, scrubbed her teeth and then took a big swig of the orange juice she spied sitting undefended on the table. As Aunt Karin laughed, Reid was washing tongue with wash cloth and making a funny face. Too bad I didn’t have my camera at hand. What kind on the aunt laughs at her niece’s distress? It’s like she is my sister or something.

Song for the road

Tuesday, October 2nd, 2007

Reid and I left for our mini-vacation at the Great Wolf Lodge in Niagara Falls (Ontario) about 5:30 this morning. I was awake at 4:12 but tried to sleep until 5:00 but succeeded in lying more-or-less still for only 20 minutes before Ken admitted to being awake, too. I’d forgotten to pack food or dishes and so did that first thing. We got the car packed before pulling Reid out of her bed. She fussed a bit but we were able to convince her that it was still time for sleeping. She slept the first hour or so, waking when we were only 5 kilometres from a rest stop. We took time for a potty break and then picked up a cup of tea, some milk and a few doughnuts.

Reid knows where we’re going and is very excited about it. As we drove, she sang what might be our theme song for this trip and it hints that Christmas is far from Reid’s mind. She sang, “Ho, ho, ho, hotel. Ho, ho, ho, hotel.” The second verse was just like the first. There was a smile involved, too, although I could only get a quick peak since I was in charge of driving the car.

A walk down mammary lane

Monday, October 1st, 2007

Reid and I went to the International Breastfeeding Challenge here in Ottawa on Saturday. There were 198 babies latched on at 11:00 am in the same spot as we saw Toopy and Binoo a few weeks ago. That’s what I call a family-friendly mall. Kudos to the St Laurent Centre. Ottawa was in 4th place with the first 3 spots going to places in Quebec. Full results of the challenge are available.

Reid and I participated in the Breastfeeding Challenge in 2004 when she was only3 months old and breastfeeding her was not the sort of thing that caused people to comment publicly. Maybe I benefitted from being in a large urban centre in Canada or maybe I was just so glad that everything was working – we had a challenging few days at the beginning that I was oblivious to comments – but I never noticed anything but smiles and the odd “you go, girl” comment from older women who were glad to a woman nursing. We missed the last couple of events, I don’t always read my emails promptly enough from the La Leche League chapter that I belong to in name only (I’m just not that social). This year though, a few people seemed to look twice me and my beautiful, but noticeably 3-year-old, daughter. The woman beside me, with a 1 month old, asked Reid how old she was and when she learned that Reid was 3 and still breastfed, she smiled and said that she imagined Reid would be the oldest one there. I smiled my, “it works for our family smile”, the one I use when people seem to think about commenting on my parenting choices. The woman asked a couple more questions and I realized that she was trying to figure out if we were “normal” and if she should be trying to emulate our breastfeeding relationship. The woman was a recent immigrant and had weaned her first at 11 months on the advice that it would be more difficult if she waited. “Here” she said, with a gesture, her doctor said to nurse at least 2 years. She asked if Reid was still waking at night, how often she nursed and that sort of thing. I had a flashback to when Reid was 1 month old. I am not sure if I could have envisioned nursing that often for 3 full years. I reassured her that Reid nurses much less often, eats “real” food and drinks cows milk as well as breast milk. I hope that she decided that we were a normal nursing couple, though I know statistically we are not. The World Health Organization, Canadian Paediatric Society, and the American Association of Paediatrics all recommend exclusive breastfeeding for the first 6 months. In Canada, 85% of mothers start out nursing their babies but only 17% do so exclusively for 6 months. Remember most women are entitled to a full year of maternity leave. The WHO explicitly recommends breastfeeding for at least 2 years. The CPS is less forceful in its recommendation but recommends “for 2 years and beyond” while the AAP mentions “one year or longer”.

The lactivist in me gets teary-eyed at the thought of the babies and children who aren’t breastfed and so I’ll stay on my soapbox long enough to refer you to the Infant Nutrition and Disaster pamphlet that the AAP  produced that notes that breastmilk is protective against infectious diseases, is the right temperature and helps to prevent hypothermia and the hormone released during breastfeeding relieves maternal stress and anxiety.

Finally, I want to mention that the Musings of a Crunchy, Domestic Goddess have led me to the League of Maternal Justice and their virtual breast fest that will be taking place October 10th at 10am. Sounds like a good excuse for me to write a letter to Reid about how much breastfeeding her has meant to me.

Are there any nursing memories that you would like to share?

Edited to add this beautiful baby at the breast: