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Chicago out-take

Saturday, June 27th, 2009

The scene: Uncle Chris puts toothpaste on Dylan’s toothbrush and hands it to him

Dylan: You do it.
Uncle Chris: I did it. The toothpaste is right there.
Dylan: No, you *do* it.
Uncle Chris: You want me to brush your teeth for you?
Dylan: Yeah. My leg hurts.
Uncle Chris: (laughs)
Dylan: (indignantly) My leg does so hurt.
Uncle Chris: I never doubted that it hurt. I don’t understand the connection.

Prelude to a vacation

Thursday, June 25th, 2009

At T-75 minutes, we said our goodbyes to Ken and went to Reid’s first soccer game. Reid gave him super-squeezy hugs in the house and by the time she got into her carseat, her lip was quivering. Ken came to the end on the sidewalk to wave and Reid started to cry a bit as she told me, “I’ll miss Daddy sooo much!” She gave him a sad, half-wave and returned his “I love you” in a quavering voice. She talked about how much she’d miss him all the way to soccer. For example, she wouldn’t have anyone to read stories to her or give her shoulder rides. I offered myself as the story reader and even said that *I* would try to carry her on my shoulders – with my long hair and Reid’s long legs it could be a challenge. It didn’t really matter because Reid said that she needed someone who was tall and strong. I offered up Uncle Chris as tall and Reid agreed that he would be okay. She declared Uncle Roger to be suitable because he is strong, though not as tall as Daddy. I, apparently, am neither tall nor strong. Thank goodness we have power steering or I couldn’t have even got Reid to soccer. ;+)

A humid 30 degrees is crazy weather for soccer, I think. The coaches seemed to agree, at least partially, and there were many water breaks. There were also 10 or so players on each of the blended teams and the coaches decided to give them a second ball so that more of them could make contact. After the game, one of the parents on another team pulled out freezies but only enough for his kid’s team and a selected few others. Reid didn’t seem to notice but a few of her school friends did and their parents decided to go to the Dairy Queen just up the street. It delayed our departure a bit but I could say “no” to ice cream and fellowship. We were only 25 minutes late getting on our way and Reid was oh so happy to have played with the others.

We made it maybe 30 minutes into our drive before Reid told me that she had to pee SO BAD! I stopped, thinking I was being scammed but not willing to take a chance, and thought she’d fall asleep afterward for sure since we were past her usual bedtime. An hour later, and after a few times when I thought she was asleep, Reid asked to stop again. We were just passing the last sign for a service centre and so I decided the universe was on my side at last. After our stop, I told Reid that she absolutely, positively had to go to sleep and she told me that she needed to help me stay awake. I gently but firmly told her that she was wrong, wrong, wrong. Since she fell asleep, I can only conclude that she finally saw the wisdom of my words.

We got to Grandma Barb and Grandpa Terry’s about 10:30. Reid woke up enough to stumble inside and use the bathroom. Grandma Barb and Grandpa Terry had both stayed up but they didn’t get any words from Reid. I was as gracious as I can be that late at night and we were both asleep short minutes after getting into bed.

Two more part days of driving and we’ll be in Chicago. But first, we’ll have a quick visit with Grandma Joyce and whoever stops by her house tonight.

Hearsay from Grandma Joyce

Thursday, June 18th, 2009

Grandma Joyce relayed a couple of stories from her last visit today. She and Reid spent quite a bit of time at the front of the house, to Reid’s delight. Reid likes to be around if R or V from next door or B from the next house over are outside.

Grandma Joyce offered to watch over R, who was asleep in the van, while his mom ran into her house because the baby was hungry. Grandma Joyce asked it the baby was still breastfeeding and the mom said that she’d stopped at 3.5 months. Once the mom had gone, Reid asked Grandma Joyce, “Did I have milkies longer than three-and-a-half months?” Grandma Joyce said, “Yes.” It’s a good thing I wasn’t expecting gratitude for the four-plus *years* I nursed Reid. She has forgotten them already, it would seem. (Umm, maybe I was subconsciously expecting she’d be grateful some day, or would at least remember.)

The woman next door has noticed how fascinated Reid is by R and V. (Pretty much anyone who is conscious would notice, in fact.) And so our neighbour asked Reid if she would like a brother or sister. Reid replied, “Mama says it ain’t gonna happen.” Grandma Joyce said that Reid mimicked by intonation perfectly. Doesn’t Miss Manners say that you’re not supposed to discuss other families’ family planning issues with kids? At least it wasn’t as awkward as the stranger/lady who brought her kids to trick-or-treat at my door and encouraged Reid to press for a little sibling.

Grandma Joyce’s trusty needle

Wednesday, June 10th, 2009

When Grandma Joyce is sitting still, she is usually doing embroidery or sometimes knitting. Over the last few months, she has been saying to Reid, “Let me introduce you to my trusty needle.” And Reid has been refusing the offer. On Monday, Reid finally accepted. Grandma pretends to poke with a needle but doesn’t. Grandma Joyce told me that she had explained the trick to Reid but Reid still jumped when she “introduced” Reid to her “trusty needle”. Reid wanted Grandma Joyce to introduce *me* to her trusty needle but I was 34 years past falling for it.

At bath time, Reid looked at me with dancing eyes and asked, “Can I introduce you to my trusty sponge?” I was more than a little leery since I was nice and dry and it was most definitely neither. I made Reid promise not to soak me and was introduced to her trusty sponge. Next, she introduced me to her “trusty rubber octopus” and had to decline further introductions in favour of washing hair and brushing teeth.

If Grandma Joyce ever offers you an introduction to her trusty needle, accept and see whether you jump or not.

Don’t pull the Kappa’s finger

Tuesday, June 9th, 2009

We went to the Museum of Civilization right after breakfast at Eddie’s on Sunday. I was determined to get there right at 9:00 to avoid any crowds. We made it at 9:15, only to discover that the museum doesn’t open until 9:30. I always try to get there at 9:00 but obviously I’ve never made it. There was a nervous-looking security guard that seemed to think that Uncle Roger and I were going to load Reid onto Grandma Joyce’s wheel chair and make a break for the Canada Hall before the museum opened. We went outside to admire the view of the back of Parliament Hill and the Library of Parliament while we waited. Once the museum was opened, we went straight to the Mythic Beasts: Dragons, Unicorns and Mermaids exhibit. Reid was a bit like a bee in a flower garden – spending lots of time here and there but moving along quite quickly. We watched 3 videos, each of which focused on beasts of the air, sea or water. Reid liked the video with a mer-bunny in it but said the others were boring. Reid liked the representations of mermaids and also the unicorn and Pegasus. She found the dragon and sea monster near the entrance to be intimidating. I was struck by the description of the Japanese myth of the Kappa. One of the panels explained that the Kappa sometimes takes the form of child and encourages children to pull its finger as a game and then pulls the child underwater and eats them. The old “pull my finger” joke takes on a whole new meaning.

We spent some time decorating dragon scales but Reid wasn’t willing to leave her artwork behind on the community dragon. Uncle Roger and Reid each designed a dragon or three on the computer and watched them fly across the overhead screens. Reid surprised me a bit in that she started by trying to find the “right” body part in each instance. Rather than trying for a silly or colourful dragon, she wanted it to be a coherent whole. It made me think of a quote from Pablo Picasso that we saw in the children’s room at the Art Gallery of Ontario back in March:

Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up.

Seeking the “right” piece seems more adult than artistic.

Reid led us next to the Canadian Children’s Museum. She was eager to perform on the stage in the theatre with Uncle Roger. I’m not sure if he was as eager for that to happen but he went backstage and put on a costume when asked. I managed to steer Reid past the main studio because how many tissue paper-on-bamboo crafts does one family need? We visited the Building Brainstorm travelling exhibit and Reid spent quite awhile on the computer designing her dream bedroom. Perhaps she’ll be an interior designer when she grows up. Uncle Roger, Grandma Joyce and I all looked at Look-Alikes: The more you look, the more you see!  by Joan Steiner and I’m going to try to find it at the library to read to Reid. We didn’t spend time at the dollhouse, blocks or layout planning and spent only little time building a tent. A repeat visit will be required.

Reid and I planted seeds in our garden on Sunday afternoon. I’d forgotten how tiny carrot seeds are and how many come in a package. Reid wanted to plant them all but we didn’t have enough room. Am I the only one who is surprised that carrots grow from seeds? We also planted wax beans and zucchini, which grow from nice big seeds. We planted all of the seeds in the packages. We might have way too much of both, especially once the beans need staking. I was worried that my seed drill, aka Reid, wasn’t planting the seeds deeply enough. Plus, we’re not the world’s greatest weeders. We also have lots of critters who dine in our garden and grass and we don’t discourage them since they make for good viewing from our dining room table.

I know Reid had fun with Grandma Joyce and Uncle Roger while Ken and were out for supper and a movie but the details are vague. I know they ate supper on the front porch. Reid is obsessed with picnics, which she defines as meals eaten away from the dining room table, especially those that take place outdoors. Uncle Roger and Reid went to the park near our house and she rode her bike. As long as Reid tired at the end of the day, it’s a good day.

Food testers

Tuesday, June 9th, 2009

I read an article on the Internet on Monday that said that Obama travels with a food tester who samples everything before the president eats it. This might be a career for Reid and/or Uncle Roger. While Uncle Roger was barbecuing chicken for supper, he sampled a piece of the peanut butter-chocolate Rice Krispies squares that Grandma Joyce had just finished making. Reid asked, “What are you doing, Uncle?” He told her that he was testing the Rice Krispies square to be sure that it was good enough to eat at supper. Reid quickly asked to “test” a piece as well. No moss grows under Reid’s feet – or tummy. As I’m sure you’d expect, Grandma Joyce’s baking passed the test.

Don’t pull the Kappa’s finger

Tuesday, June 9th, 2009

We went to the Museum of Civilization right after breakfast at Eddie’s on Sunday. I was determined to get there right at 9:00 to avoid any crowds. We made it at 9:15, only to discover that the museum doesn’t open until 9:30. I always try to get there at 9:00 but obviously I’ve never made it. There was a nervous-looking security guard that seemed to think that Uncle Roger and I were going to load Reid onto Grandma Joyce’s wheel chair and make a break for the Canada Hall before the museum opened. We went outside to admire the view of the back of Parliament Hill and the Library of Parliament while we waited. Once the museum was opened, we went straight to the Mythic Beasts exhibit. Reid was a bit like a bee in a flower garden – spending lots of time here and there but moving along quite quickly. We watched 3 videos, each of which focused on beasts of the air, sea or water. Reid liked the video with a mer-bunny in it but said the others were boring. Reid liked the representations of mermaids and also the unicorn and Pegasus. She found the dragon and sea monster near the entrance to be intimidating. I was struck by the description of the Japanese myth of the Kappa. One of the panels explained that the Kappa sometimes takes the form of child and encourages children to pull its finger as a game and then pulls the child underwater and eats them. The old “pull my finger” joke takes on a whole new meaning.

We spent some time decorating dragon scales but Reid wasn’t willing to leave her artwork behind on the community dragon. Uncle Roger and Reid each designed a dragon or three on the computer and watched them fly across the overhead screens. Reid surprised me a bit in that she started by trying to find the “right” body part in each instance. Rather than trying for a silly or colourful dragon, she wanted it to be a coherent whole. It made me think of a quote from Pablo Picasso that we saw in the children’s room at the Art Gallery of Ontario back in March:

Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up.

Seeking the “right” piece seems more adult than artistic.

Reid led us next to the Canadian Children’s Museum. She was eager to perform on the stage in the theatre with Uncle Roger. I’m not sure if he was as eager for that to happen but he went backstage and put on a costume when asked. I managed to steer Reid past the main studio because how many tissue paper-on-bamboo crafts does one family need? We visited the Building Brainstorm special exhibit and Reid spent quite awhile on the computer designing her dream bedroom. Perhaps she’ll be an interior designer when she grows up. Uncle Roger, Grandma Joyce and I all looked at Look-Alikes: The more you look, the more you see!  by Joan Steiner and I’m going to try to find it at the library to read to Reid. We didn’t spend time at the dollhouse, blocks or layout planning and spent only little time building a tent. A repeat visit will be required.

Reid and I planted seeds in our garden on Sunday afternoon. I’d forgotten how tiny carrot seeds are and how many come in a package. Reid wanted to plant them all but we didn’t have enough room. Am I the only one who is surprised that carrots grow from seeds? We also planted wax beans and zucchini, which grow from nice big seeds. We planted all of the seeds in the packages. We might have way too much of both, especially once the beans need staking. I was worried that my seed drill, aka Reid, wasn’t planting the seeds deeply enough. Plus, we’re not the world’s greatest weeders. We also have lots of critters who dine in our garden and grass and we don’t discourage them since they make for good viewing from our dining room table.

I know Reid had fun with Grandma Joyce and Uncle Roger while Ken and were out for supper and a movie but the details are vague. I know they ate supper on the front porch. Reid is obsessed with picnics, which she defines as meals eaten away from the dining room table, especially those that take place outdoors. Uncle Roger and Reid went to the park near our house and she rode her bike. As long as Reid tired at the end of the day, it’s a good day.

Pirates on a treasure hunt

Monday, June 8th, 2009

We tried to let Uncle Roger sleep in on Saturday morning, we really did, but I tread as lightly as an elephant and Reid drags her stool across the floor so that she can see whatever it is I’m doing. Neither of are particularly good with our “indoor voices”, either. Uncle Roger is familiar with our deficiencies but forgot to insert the ear plugs that he brought. He was up by 6:30 and assisting in the creation of a menu. I’d given Reid the choice of pancakes, waffles or French toast and she decided that we should play restaurant and she would be the menu creator/waitress while I would be the cook. I said that people could choose the sort of fruit they wanted but that I was only making pancakes. Reid disagreed and I had to resort to parental subterfuge to ensure that the restaurant’s patrons only chose pancakes. We filled our bellies with fruit and pancakes and then headed out to soccer. Reid scored a couple of goals but for the most part wandered casually around the field. I’m not sure why she was distracted – we’ll have to chalk it up to being 4.

After soccer we started our treasure hunt. Uncle Roger had read that there were a few geocaching activities as part of Doors Open Ottawa and wanted to try one. I sold the idea to Reid as a “treasure hunt”. She was the captain (of course). Uncle Roger was driving and running the GPS and so he was the pirate-navigator. Since I have to buckle and unbuckle Reid from her car seat and schlepp her stuff around, etc. I declared myself to the captain’s assistant. It sounded nicer that go-fer. Our first “waypoint” was the Vanier Muséopark (a good place for a ramble around with local history exhibits, mainly in French) and the next was a little church in Vanier. The church had been Anglican (St Margaret’s) but now serves also a francophone parish, and a Mennonite one as well as offering a service in Innuktituk once a month. We went home for lunch and then Reid, Uncle Roger and I went to the Billing Estate National Historic Site and finally to the Cumberland Heritage Village. Reid was most interested in the bridal party at the Billings Estate but Uncle Roger and I especially enjoyed their special exhibit on 19th century medicines and treatments, “Drink this, Drink that”. At the Cumberland Heritage Village we saw another bridal party but they were up staged in Reid’s estimation by the playground attached to the historic school. She played on the wooden swings with ropes that creaked as she swung and also on the teeter. We had a near-miss on the may pole-like apparatus, though. It’s a pole with ropes that attach at the top. The kids are supposed to run around and then, once they’ve built up some momentum, they jump and their bodies swing out as they continue spinning. I didn’t think Reid could run fast enough and so told her to sit on one rope’s know while I ran her around the pole. I let go and she swung out in a wide arc. And then the rope started wrapping itself around the pole. Reid had a terrified look on her face – and I imagine Uncle Roger and I looked more than a little worried – as we rushed to catch Reid before the rope wrapped far enough around the pole to throw Reid into it. I rescued her just in the nick of time.

At each way point, Reid helped us to identify the number for which we were hunting and the numbers helped us complete the GPS coordinates for the cache, or treasure, as we were calling it. Hard core geocachers must use GPS devices that are more precise than the ones you use in a car. We tried and tried but couldn’t find the exact position with Uncle Roger’s GPS. We even resorted to searching around major features of landscape without success. I swallowed my pride and asked one of the people who work at the village if he knew where the cache was hidden. He hadn’t even known there was a cache on the site. After a couple of “that’s it, we’re leaving” moments that were followed by “oh, let’s look just a little more,” we left. I’d worried that Reid might be upset but she was bored enough with the searching and hungry enough not to make a fuss. Or maybe girls who are 4 and 11/12 years old are big enough to manage their emotions. Reid just commented that whoever had hidden the treasure had done a really good job. Uncle Roger and I had to agree.

When we got home, I saw that someone had reported finding the cache and so I emailed to ask them to tell me where it had been. Since I’d already swallowed my pride earlier that afternoon it was quite easy. The friendly stranger told me where to look and what to look for. We almost went back on Sunday but didn’t. I asked Uncle Roger if he was thinking of taking up geocaching as a hobby and he answered, “Not anymore.”

It was a good way to choose which sites to visit among the dozens participating in Doors Open Ottawa. I’d planned to visit some embassies and the OC Transpo train garage. Maybe we’ll do that next year instead. But being pirates *was* fun while it lasted.

One of them remembered a camera

Friday, June 5th, 2009

Reid and Uncle Roger went to the beach today. Only one of them remembered a camera. Reid was proud as punch that she was the *one*. The kayakers who took the picture of the two of them, admired the noise that Reid’s FisherPrice Camera makes.

Petrie Island beach

Petrie Island beach

Petrie Island beach

Plans for Uncle Roger

Friday, June 5th, 2009

After a long drive that ended about midnight and was followed by the Detroit-Pittsburgh hockey game, Uncle Roger might have been hoping to sleep late but Reid had other ideas. She tried tickling his exposed toes, shaking his shoulder and calling to him but he wouldn’t wake until she kissed him. Little kid kisses are as magic for waking up adults as adults’ kisses are for soothing pinched fingers and scraped knees.

Once she had Uncle Roger upstairs, Reid started talking about going to the beach and getting sand and seashells. Without context and half-awake, I don’t think Uncle Roger understood all of what Reid was saying. I clarified, “Reid has plans for today.” Uncle Roger asked if Reid’s had plans for *him*. Reid’s eyes sparkled as she answered that she did have plans for him, many plans. She said that she had some plans for Grandma Joyce, and for Mama and Daddy but she had more than this many (wiggling the fingers of one hand) for Uncle Roger. She gets the planning gene from me.

I’m not sure how many of Reid’s plans were put into practice today but they were on their way to the beach at Petrie Island before 10:00. The day was off to a promising start.