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Just to be clear

Tuesday, January 6th, 2009

Heard in our car this morning:
Reid: Mama, do you want to know what Daddy and I have that you don’t?
Me: Sure, what?
Reid: Our last name is longer. We’re taller. We can run faster. We’re stronner. We can ride our bikes faster.
Me: What can I do that you and Daddy can’t do?
Reid: Noffing.
Me: Thanks, Reid.
Reid: If you want to be like me and Daddy, you have to have my last name.

Looks like I want be getting taller, stronger or faster anytime soon.

Have a great day, however long your last name is.

Christmas comes early to Ottawa

Thursday, December 4th, 2008

We’ve had a couple periods of heavy snow and a few days worth of light snow and flurries here in Ottawa but these aren’t the only signs that Christmas is just around the corner. Reid and took part in our first Christmas activity last Tuesday when she got her picture taken with Santa and then on Saturday we attended Santa’s Parade of Lights in the Orleans part of Ottawa. I’d heard that the Help Santa Toy Parade (held downtown) was disappointing because of the low number of floats compared to minivans with signs on them and was a bit worried what Reid would think of her first-ever parade. (I don’t think we should count our experience 2 years when we waited in the bitterly cold weather for 45 minutes before abandonning the parade route without having seen a single float or having heard even a note from a marching band.

The temperature on Saturday seemed a good omen, though, hovering around freezing with no rain or snow. We went to Melissa and Peter’s for supper and then headed to the parade route to stand with friends of theirs who went earlier to save us a spot. It’s good to have friends who have friends like that. There was a bit of a scramble to find a place to park since we were later than we’d planned to be but we found a school parking lot. Since I’d decided to bring a stroller for Reid even though she is getting big for it, we were able to travel as fast as Ben’s 7 year old legs could carry him rather being limited by Reid’s speed – or my top speed while carrying her – over the 2 plus kilometres between the van and the meeting spot. We arrived with about 10 minutes to spare. There was a mat on the ground for the bigger kids and Reid sat in her stroller.

There were many floats and contingents from local schools, sports and arts organizations as well as politicians and other folks. There were some bands who marched and a couple who rode on flat bed trailers. There were quite a few fire trucks, historic and new, and there were fire fighters collecting money and toys for charity. I didn’t think to bring a toy but had some change for Reid to dole out. My favourite entrants were the high school volleyball players who played while their net rolled along and the OC Transpo bus that was “dressed up” as Santa Claus. Since the bus is red and white to begin with, the addition of the beard, eyes and hat made for a convincing St. Nick. If you could ignore the size, squareness and the people riding inside, that is. Throughout the parade, people were passing out candy canes and round hard candies. I remember scrambling in the gutter for candies thrown toward the crowd but people handed the treats directly to the kids. Reid must not have looked needy enough or worthy enough because she ended up with only 3 mini candy canes and 1 hard candy (that I wouldn’t let her eat for fear she’d choke, like I did on a cherry candy when I was her age and Roger had to do the Heimlich Manoeuvre to dislodge it). Ben, on the other hand, got enough candies to fill his toque and also a pencil. I was glad that Reid didn’t get more since it means that I don’t have to decide when she can have the treats. I’m lazy, I guess.

On Sunday afternoon, Reid and I joined Melissa, Sarah and Ben for a play called “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer”. The script followed the same story line of the tv show except Herbie the elf who wanted to be a dentist wasn’t in it, the abominable snowman wasn’t particularly menacing (for which I was glad) and Rudolph’s parents were entirely absent and so I didn’t  have to be angry at them for their failure to nurture his uniqueness. The cast consisted of 3 men and 1 woman from London’s Duffle Bag Theatre, plus 2 boys chosen from the audience to play Santa and Rudolph and a girl who played Vixen. There was a lot of audience participation – we all said “eee” when the smiles of the Christmastown residents (that was us) were mentioned and said, “hohoho” when the actors said, “Santa” and that sort of thing. Reid wasn’t scared at all (unlike at Goldilocks and the Three Canadian Bears) but watched with a bemused but happy expression. The staging of the play was minimalist – just a screen, a chest (the “duffle bag” I suppose) and the imaginations that each of us brought with us. The absence of elaborate scenery, coupled with the super-simple costumes, mainly hats and a red foam nose for Rudolph, wasn’t as overwhelming as the tv show is. Okay, confession time. I find the television version of Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer to be more than a little creepy and I think Rudolph has mange or some other skin condition. Not that I could handle a repeat of trying to watch a Christmas special with commercials in it – the trauma caused by Reid’s incessant questioning on the existence, meaning and role of commercials is still to fresh in my mind. She is such a Treehouse and TV Ontario kid!

After the play, we went into the Canadian Children’s Museum and heard a couple of members of a klesmer band play some songs before going to do the craft for which I had registered everyone. We made lanterns out of balsa wood stars covered with tissue paper that held a small baby food jar and a votive candle. As we left carrying the kids’ works of art, I told Melissa that I was pretty sure that Ken would never allow Reid to light her lantern. Melissa grinned and agreed that Peter would hold similar views. Ken’s reaction didn’t cause me to doubt myself. When he saw the lantern he said, “That looks flammable,” in the sort of tone that made me think maybe I could light the candle in the lantern if I were far from him, Reid and our house but Reid wouldn’t see it. She hasn’t asked about it since Sunday but perhaps it should disappear anyway, eh?

What you wish for

Tuesday, November 25th, 2008

Reid still tells us frequently that she doesn’t want to go to school and so she was pleased to learn on Thursday that having pink eye would keep her out of school on Friday. It was the cap to a chopped up day for Ken. He took Reid to school for 8:00, picked her up at 11:00 to go to a dentist appointment, dropped her off again about 1:00 and received a call at 2:30 informing him that he needed to come back because the teachers though Reid had pink eye. Ken took Reid straight to the walk-in clinic and after a couple of hours (including the time in the examining room) was home with the following diagnosis: the doctor didn’t see any signs of pink eye but if they appeared, we were to put antibiotic drops in. And, no, Reid couldn’t go to school on Friday despite the lack of symptoms. It turned out to be a moot point since Reid definitely had a pink eye on Friday morning. I was glad that Ken had planned to be at home anyway but having Reid’s “help” didn’t necessarily advance his plans for the day.

On Friday morning, Reid and I were discussing what the day held in store for her when she realized that she would be missing “wear anything you want” day, in other words she doesn’t have to wear her uniform on Fridays. Next she remembered that she would also be missing the first show and tell session of the year. These realizations did not please her in the least! Seizing the opportunity to take advantage of this Learning Opportunity (if I could make these words blink, I would) and not subtly at all talked about how she frequently doesn’t want to go to school when, in fact, it is a good place to be. I didn’t actually say, “Be careful what you wish for.” But I did think it.

Reid is excited for this Friday to arrive because it will be triple-great: where anything day, show and tell, and crazy hat day. Now if only I can figure out how to make the hat that Reid has in mind. She was music and lights. I’m not that good at electronics.

Back where he belongs – Wordless Wednesday

Wednesday, November 19th, 2008

Reading with Dad
After 3.5 months in Afghanistan, Ken is back where he belongs – in his chair, reading to Reid.

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Going for “ooh la la!”

Monday, November 10th, 2008

Warning: this might seem like too much info for some of you

I was late picking Reid up on Friday night. When she asked me why, I told her that I’d been to have my legs waxed so that Ken would say ‘Ooh, la la’ when he sees them. Reid immediately and vehemently declared, ‘I want that!’ I explained that her leg hair didn’t need to  be removed and, in any case, Ken would be very impressed to see her in glasses. Well, Reid decided to one-up me but good with her hair cut. I am pretty sure she will steal the show with her new, short ‘do. I think that she look like a little British school girl or perhaps like Madeline. And, lucky Reid, her transformation didn’t require any pain.

Coming soon

Monday, November 10th, 2008

Reid and I have been discussing Ken’s return a lot lately, as you can imagine. I’m not sure that he realizes that Reid is eagerly anticipating the time when he comes come *to her*.  He may be thinking that he is coming back to us but that is just silly talk.

When Ken is home, he will give Reid her bath while I clean up after supper because he has been gone a long time. When we go to the airport to pick him up, she will give him lots of kisses because they have missed each other. (I, apparently, was not missed.) Ken will go to watch Reid swim and he will be impressed with how much better she is. (Whereas I was an uninterested chauffeur these past three and a half months, I guess.) The best I can say for myself is that I’m invited to take Reid to school with Ken on his first day back. She has noted that she’ll stop being late once Daddy is back, not to cast any blame or anything.

I’ll be so glad when Ken comes back to Reid! I may have to wait but I know I’ll get some left over attention at some point.

I’m counting hours now…

My way or by Reid

Monday, October 20th, 2008

In Ken’s absence, Reid has been taking on more responsibilities with greater and lesser degrees of success. She is more than capable of giving the cats kibble although she tends toward the “super sized” servings, both in the bowl and in the number she drops for Leo (because he likes to “hunt” a few off of the floor). Reid’s one attempt to fill the water bowl in the basement resulted in a panicked yell and wet clothes. The controls on the utility sink are exceedingly sensitive, except you have to twist and twist before they respond at all, and they seem to me to work backwards. In any case, Reid hasn’t tried to fill the water bowl since that first time.

Reid has mastered the art of changing the toilet paper roll. She seeks out occasions to practice this skill, a change from the state of play in most house I know. The only thing, and it’s a small thing but I notice, Reid tends to put the roll on so that the toilet paper unrolls at the back and bottom. I’m a dispenses from the top and front woman. Everyone knows that there is only one correct way to hang toilet paper (and that is the way they happen to do it). I say nothing to Reid except, “Hey, thanks!” Or maybe, “I’m so glad we work as a team!” A little part of me, the part that appreciates – but ignores – the irony of my otherwise lax housekeeping traits co existing with this anal one, knows I’m silly to quibble but would still prefer that she change the way Reid hangs the toilet paper. I’m not dumb enough to correct her though.

I’ll take help in Reid’s way than doing everything myself. When we were newly together, Ken told me that I could have something done my way or by him. This was a good way to explain the choice before me. I had to leave the room when he washed dishes to suppress my impulse to improve his process but it worked out overall. I don’t know whether when he washes dishes by hand he still puts each dish in the water all alone but I know that I’m not the only one who washes dishes and that is the main thing. Now, I’m not the only one to change the toilet paper either. Things are going well.

Because I’m that dumb

Tuesday, September 23rd, 2008

Ken called Thursday morning. It was so wonderful to hear his voice! For once Reid and I were ahead of our schedule and we were both in good spirits. When I heard Ken’s voice, I put the phone on speaker and said hello again so that Reid would hear Ken’s “hello” out of the blue. As soon as she heard his voice, she spun around and said, “Hi, Daddy!” And then she said to me, “That is Daddy?” It was and the smile on her face and sparkle in her eyes made me sad that we don’t have a video phone. She chatted with Ken for a while and I even got a chance at the end.

We hurry-scurried to get to the car after we said our goodbyes and we would have been on time for our respective schools but for the soft tire on the car. Luckily for me it was on the driver’s side and also that Uncle Dave had told me to keep an eye on it after he had filled it the week earlier. We went straight to a gas station and would have still been on time if not for the woman who took advantage of my courtesy in letting her get to a gas pump (or so I thought) before I pulled up to the air pump. Then, she had to go into the store to get the quarters that the machine required before finally filling her tire. Reid had many questions about the delay and I used the time to explain the process rather than ranting. I’m a better person because of her ;+)

When we finally got to school, the kids were already in their own rooms, rather than all in the pre-care room, and so I took a moment to ask how Reid is doing globally. The communication book is good but doesn’t provide the same sort of observation that a conversation would. Reid had kissed me and went to play but when she saw that I was still there, she came over for a hug.  And then she started to cry and say she felt sick. What a silly mama I am! I blew the “no cry” exit. For what it is worth, the teacher had been telling me that Reid is intelligent, follows direction well and is not involved in any conflicts with her peers.

I slunk away quickly, like I should have done in the first place, and Reid waved at me from the window. She returned to her colouring table before I backed the car up to leave. That is a good sign. Most every morning she tells me that she doesn’t want to go to school and I tell her one or more of the following: that we both have things to learn; that we have friends to see; and that going to school is our “job”.  I was pretty sure that Reid was continuing to experience the separation anxiety that she’d had even about day care since Ken left but I wanted to be sure. Last year at this time, Reid asked not to go to day care and it turned out that one of her classmates was pulling her hair and otherwise making her life unpleasant.

We’re having a parent-teacher information session this Thursday night and I’ll maybe get more information there.

Scary story

Thursday, September 18th, 2008

Just before bedtime last night, Reid took down from the wall one of the pictures that she made recently and announced that she would tell me a story about it. She told me that it would be a scary story and so I would have to hug her tight when she was scared. Reid said the beginning and end wouldn’t be scary but the middle would be. I didn’t ask her why she was planning to tell me a story that was so frightening that she needed to be hugged but I thought the question really loudly.

By the time we got snuggled in for the story, silliness overtook fright. The creature she’d drawn was a monster named Gravement and he was attacked by …. (Reid searched for a moment) … Super Burper who burped and farted on him. When Super Burper started pooping on the head of poor Gravement, I told Reid I didn’t want to hear anymore. And it’s true. I’ve officially heard enough of the potty humour even though it still makes Reid giggle. Don’t let Reid’s fondness for dresses and shoes fool you into thinking that she is a girly-girl.

Do you suppose that this is a phase that Ken wishes he was here to experience fully?

Super Dad

Sunday, August 31st, 2008

You know the commercials where the inept father is responsible for his kids and ends up: (a) taking them to a fast food restaurant; (b) feeding them something prepared from frozen; or (c) make a mess of the kitchen and requiring an amazing new cleaning product. Often in the course of the commercial, one of the kids mentions that the mom doesn’t do things in a certain way or that point is made without words. Ken always said that his answer would be – in an ominous tone – “I’m not Mom.” (Or maybe those commercials aren’t on any more. Since we’ve had our pvr, we fast forward through the commercials.)

In any case, lately I’ve had my shortcomings in any comparison with Ken pointed out. The conversations go something like this:

Me: Reid, be careful. The waffle iron it too hot for you to touch it.
Reid: It’s not too hot for Daddy to touch.
Me: Yes, it is. Daddy would have to be careful, too.
Reid: You have to be really careful but Daddy has to be only a little bit careful.

Variations have occurred over ability to reach things on high shelves, find places we’ve never been to, time taken to complete a given task. I never come out in the most favourable light.

Reid’s new favourite song is, not surprisingly, Super Dad by Peanut Butter and Jam.

It’s rough on a Mama’s ego, being so thoroughly displaced ;+)